I have heard people says "Failure is not an option" or "Fails happened but a winner never quit trying" or "Try again!" :)
I understand if you don't try and still balling your eyes out and cry "Why do I fail?" BUT...what if you try and try and keep fails? or many times it doesn't even your fault at all, it is just happen to be you in that moment, place, and environment? What if failure is a "satanic circle" that no matter what you do, you keep coming back at it.
Amanda (not her real name) is a nice, smart, beautiful young woman. She grew up in a poor neighborhood, dad is an alcoholic and drug addict man who is too lazy to even get up and be a dad for her. Mom works hard, provide for the family and send Amanda to school. Amanda doesn't even know what the word "fun" means or what it feels like to go out with friends and have fun shopping, eating ice cream and talking about a cute boy just like every teenagers do these days. Amanda doesn't even have time to take a break because all she know is "work,school and take care of your family." She has to grow up and be an adult even though she is just a kid herself.
Then, she finally became an adult, but her life remains the same. She graduated from high school, still working to get into college because her parents couldn't afford it, and while she was working to save her money for college, she ended up pregnant and got married. Her husband, Carl (not his real name) is a great man. He is a hard working man, work 2 to 3 jobs for his family, grew up in a tough neighborhood himself and he is also in school. Imagine how chaotic their life is all about. Working 2 to 3 jobs, school and baby. But, they think everything is gonna be all right some day.
5 years later, Amanda ended up the same and so does Carl. They are happy with each other but their life remain the same. Struggling with the money, don't even have a wedding day, don't have any support or help from any family member, can't finish school and they have to save money for their kid's future. It seems like no matter what they do, they ended up poor. They work hard, they pray, they pay their bills, stay out of trouble, but they remain poor. They tried to succeed but it seems like it will never happen for them..well..maybe for their kid.
And there is Hannah, a sweet girl, nice, smart and all. Grew up in a nice family, parents are both love each other, work and provide everything she needs since she was a baby. She went to college, got married, became a housewife and work part time from home. Her husband, Tom, they met when they were at college. He grew up in a single parent household, dad died when he was 3 years old and mom work hard to provide for him and his sister. He went to college and succeed. They seems happy, content, and they still go on vacation every year.
Two stories with two different life. Life seems unfair huh? One works so hard to earn everything in her life and she still not make it and the other one doesn't even have to work hard and she lives very well.
So many times people think of those homeless or poor people or those who said "I kept fail" as those who are lazy, stupid or don't try hard enough. But, what if some of them really tried hard, work hard, and study hard but they couldn't make it because they do not have a good family support or money or opportunity as other people who gained it with the right support system.
We often underestimate the family factor in someone's life. There are a lot of people who succeed because their family help them out. Number two is an opportunity. A lot of people are willing to do whatever to be success but not all of them make it because they do not get the opportunity. For example, Dan is a smart guy but he doesn't have money to go to college and there is Tim, average guy, who has money for college. Dan doesn't have the opportunity just like Tim does even though he might be smarter than Tim. Number three is how far would you go to be succeed? Sometimes we wanna be a certain type of people or worker or person but maybe that field is not ours, maybe we need to change direction of career or love life or whatever it is. But what if THAT is what you want and only that..how far would you go to succeed, even though you tried so many times and failed? Is it not wise and stupid to keep trying or is it a great thing to keep trying and not give up until you get it? (is it really working or this recipe is just to make the "losers" feels happy? LOL)
Some people have to work hard to be succeed and some people don't even have to work hard to gain it. Some people made it and some don't. Sometimes failure is all you got, no matter how hard you tried. I am not trying to discourage you but this is a reality for some of us. Have you ever feel like your life is empty, useless, pointless and unhappy?
You know what, I think it would be a lie if someone say they never feel any of that even once in their life LOL. Because, no matter how handsome, beautiful, rich, smart and fabulous you are..life happens! Many times, it is not a happy thing to dance for. Sometimes when it happen, you felt like you just being hit by a large truck without warning and your look back to see if there is anything you could have done to prevent it from happening and sometimes you regret some of it. But many times, there is nothing that you could have done to prevent it from happening, life happens. It is either make you stronger or bitter toward life itself.
When life kept screwed you over and over again, it is not even your fault, you just feel bitter toward life. But, for some people, it becomes a challenge to move forward and fight back..harder! Which one are you? a fighter, a quitter or just simply a loser in this journey called "LIFE?"
Sometimes life treat us unfair and cruel. But I think there is always tomorrow ..hopefully it will be better than today :)
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xoxo,
LIndsay
