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Now, dont get me wrong. Growing up, I read Cinderella and all those fairy tale books. I was just not like most girls who dreamed of wearing a white glowing dress with prince charming by their side. I was one of those girls who grew up and thought I was going to be an FBI agent or a secret spy agent being sent to secret mission lol. I hate wearing dress, I hate being a bridesmaid and flower girls. I guess I was just not into girly girl stuff. But, it doesn't mean I am not a girl!
I don't hate princess or prince and the kingdom concept. It is just not for me. I find that fairy tale is wrong and send the wrong message to children and most adult these days. Many lil girls growing up and thought they would find a prince charming who will save them from their troubles and treat them with love and live happily ever after.
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Once you grow up and realize that real life sucks, some of you are still hoping to find that "princess life" and some of you gave up that expectation and became real. Many of you just laugh when your little girls told you that she thinks prince charming really exist (some of my adult friends still believe this LOL).
Let's just be honest. Prince charming does not exist. The one that you are married to is not that charming anymore, especially when they burp, fart and scratch in front of you. The charming disappeared when the husband started to yell at you, or throw their dirty pants on your bed, stinky socks all over the house, greasy hands on your wall, pile of laundry are waiting for you, or when he is being nice to you when all he wanted was sex..after that..poof there goes Mr nice guy! lol
What I am trying to say is that, real life is so much different than fairy tale stories. Maybe that is why people wrote stories like that because they are trying to escape their reality. I am not just talking about dirty laundry, but also cheating, abuse and you've lost that magic feelings moment in your marriage.
What books, Hollywood and sappy love stories offered us often time are so much different than reality. Sadly, many of us bought those crap stuff than trying to survive the marriage or work things out. Why? because our brain has been engraved with these fairy tales stories ever since we were a little girl.
We expect our life to be like Cinderella, a thought that things will get better once we find that prince or man. But, reality does not always turn out that good. Many of us facing depression after they found their so called "Prince" or many of us disappointed at our man because they are not as handsome, nice, rich, understanding or romantic as Mr fairy tale.
Who can beat a fairy tale character?
they were created to be perfect,
something that real people don't have!
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But, good news ladies..our men are willing to learn! Be patient though..not a lot of them are quick learner. Keep in mind also that they are all clueless about what women want. YOU have to tell them what you want, how you want it and what can you do to help them. It takes time, love and patience. But, men are like puppies..they are willing to learn just to please the one they love. But, remember ladies..give the TREATS! ;)
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OK, with that being said..I am not against all of you who are still hoping to find Mr.Perfect and thought that life will always be happily ever after. Happy is a strong word for everyday lives. Of course, we can find happiness everyday but for a lot of marriage, happiness is about surviving, its about respect, its about being selfless, its about learning, its about give, its about waiting!
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Don't give up! Marriage might not be a fairy tale stories all the time, but there were sweet memories that even Cinderella cannot find that in her fairy tale world. Yes, thinking that romance is dead is also wrong. Man, even though your wives might be into boys stuff like me, we are still a girl!
What I meant is that..we love it when you say we are beautiful even when we just got back from the gym. We love when you wash your plate, or clean up the house or do your laundry. We find it sexy when a man empty the dishwasher and boy, we do have treats for that effort.
When a woman is tired, it is hard to even think about sex. But, a lil massage might trigger an unexpected surprises. A helping hands on cooking the food is a very sexy activity. We love when you talk great things about us in front of your friends.
We love when you surprise us with dinner or even just a lil cupcake after a long day at work. We love it when you send us a lil note at work or just hugging us while we are washing the dishes. It is sexy and we feel loved!
My point is that when we were kids, we feed our brain with junk books like fairy tale because we were kids. But, when we grow up and see that the real life is not as fun as fairy tale..we do know that we can create our own "fairy tale" with training LOL
Good luck!
xoxo
Lindsay
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