According to Urban Dictionary, No Strings Attached (NSA)means: Doing something for someone without asking for anything in return. There is another source that pretty much explains it as well. This one is from Wiktionary and it says, Characterized by an absence of conditions or obligations or unconditional. It sounds like a great, ideal way of being a hero and being a Good Samaritan.
But I am not going to write about a Good Samaritan. This time, I want to talk about "No Strings Attached" from a "love" relationship's angle. From this website it says NSA is Where two people decide to engage in a sexual relationship that has no ties or expectation with regards to finances, exclusivity or romance. Literally, there are no strings binding the two together.
Many people these days, especially young people, think that this is a cool relationship. First of all, it doesn't have to involve commitment and then there is a catch, you can pretty much do anything any lover does without the C (commitment) word. Its a win win situation, right?. Especially for those who are not ready to be involve in a committed relationship, fear about it or had a bad experience of it. Whatever your reason or excuses, people have their own opinion about it and so am I ;)
I, for one, is against this. I mean, if you don't want to be involved in a relationship then at least avoid the sex part. Think about it! Whose advantage is it to have access to your body (and maybe soul), without any commitment to their actions?. If you are pregnant, I am not into it. If you get any sexual disease ..oopps!! If you fall in love, don't be, because I am not into it.
Sex is not just a word to pleasure your body. God intended sex to be between a husband and a wife. A man and a woman in a committed relationship, to honor and to love each other. Why does God want it to be that way? Because there is a deep, intimate pleasure in sex. It is not just reaching for your body, it is also touching your deepest soul. There is no greater wound that a heart broken caused by LOVE. It is a powerful word, a deep sense of touching and feeling. It is not just for fun, even though fun is a part of love itself.
You might say that the reason/excuse that you do not want to be in a serious relationship or commitment is because you don't think you love the man/woman. You just want the sex part without the drama that comes with it. Even when the two, or more, of you agreed to live this lifestyle, you should think about the value of your future, your body and your life.
After the sex, is it enough? No, you craved for more. You want more sex, you want more attention, you want more in life. It is just a human in us who always demands more, never satisfied. That is why God wants you to have sex with one person that you love and love you back in a commitment. Why? because God wired our bodies to crave for more sex and be satisfied with it in every level. From physical to emotional to orgasm LOL. God understands that and He intended for you to enjoy sex with pleasure, not being taken advantage of some selfish man/woman, not being a slave of your own addiction or others and not being dumb to think that it is OK to do it because it is what everyone else is doing.
Just because others think it is cool or OK, it doesn't have to change who you are as a person and have to agree with it. Have an integrity within yourself. I, for one, would not like for anyone to just want my body to pleased him and do not want to deal with the aftermath that comes within it. I also don't want to do that to other person. If I want a friendship with a man, then I go for a friendship, not the sex without any (personal) attachment. Sex IS personal and you already are ATTACHED when you have sex with other person. How many babies has died because you do not want the attachment in your relationship? How many hearts had been broken because of this kind of relationship? How many future has to take a different path because of it? etc.
You might feel in control when you have a say in a relationship, but are you really in charge of your life? or is it just a way to make you feel like you "gain" power over a man when you say "Hey NSA, OK?!" and you think you are powerful? I mean come on! If I am a dude then who doesn't want a woman who would like to have sex for free, no drama, no obligation, no responsibilities afterward..no matter what happened? Well..hello world?! LOL
I might be conservative in an old fashion way. But, I do value sex and especially love in a lot of ways. If someone don't wanna be your lover but want your body for sex, then I don't think they deserve the best of you. When you have sex, you give your best to that person. Unless you don't think yourself deserves a great price, then go ahead wasting your value to people who doesn't even think you are valuable enough that they are willing to respect you. If they chose to do the NSA, it simply mean they could do that to anyone at the same time they are doing it with you. No Strings Attached, right? you are free to do it with whoever and so am I.
I am not trying to be holy or good girl or whatever you implied through this blog..lol..I am just sharing my opinion. I just want you all to look at your life in a different way. In a way that God wants you to respect yourself. If you can't love yourself, you can't expect others to do the same to you. Even if you are doing it for fun or because you value commitment or love and don't feel to share it unless with the right person. Then, why waste your time, body and energy with the one that you don't see your future with them in it?. Be friend, and ditch the sex part. Sex is temporary, an overnight sensation, but you can't take it back. Whats done is done. No matter how good the sex gets, it wont beat the sensation of doing it with the one you love.
Well, there is a beauty of being in love and share it with one person for the rest of your life. It is not old fashion and no we don't miss anything by not doing the NSA part. It is just not for me, it might be for you, but consider these questions. What do you want in life? How much you value yourself by doing it? Do you see a future in that kind of relationship? What if you fall in love? What are your fears? Why are you doing that? just ask those questions and whatever your answers might be, there your life might lay in the future.
Make a wise decision before its too late or you get too comfortable and confused with what life suppose to be for you. There are many ways to enjoy sex than to waste it with a wrong person, who doesn't deserve you. There is nothing wrong to think "old fashion" in a modern world. At the end, you are the one who has to live your life and live with the consequences that comes based on what you were and are doing in it.
You want to give the best for your future wife and husband, not what's left. If you are not a virgin anymore, you don't have to keep doing it just because you are not a virgin anymore. There is a forgiveness and grace through repentance. Sex might be one of the hardest addiction, but you can control yourself when you set your goal to a better you. If you are too scare to be in a commitment, then like I said, ditched the sex and just be friend. If you are a free spirited person, who does whatever you want in life, that is your choice and I am not trying to change who you are. Just consider it an opinion from a blogger ;)
But I am not going to write about a Good Samaritan. This time, I want to talk about "No Strings Attached" from a "love" relationship's angle. From this website it says NSA is Where two people decide to engage in a sexual relationship that has no ties or expectation with regards to finances, exclusivity or romance. Literally, there are no strings binding the two together.
Many people these days, especially young people, think that this is a cool relationship. First of all, it doesn't have to involve commitment and then there is a catch, you can pretty much do anything any lover does without the C (commitment) word. Its a win win situation, right?. Especially for those who are not ready to be involve in a committed relationship, fear about it or had a bad experience of it. Whatever your reason or excuses, people have their own opinion about it and so am I ;)
I, for one, is against this. I mean, if you don't want to be involved in a relationship then at least avoid the sex part. Think about it! Whose advantage is it to have access to your body (and maybe soul), without any commitment to their actions?. If you are pregnant, I am not into it. If you get any sexual disease ..oopps!! If you fall in love, don't be, because I am not into it.
Sex is not just a word to pleasure your body. God intended sex to be between a husband and a wife. A man and a woman in a committed relationship, to honor and to love each other. Why does God want it to be that way? Because there is a deep, intimate pleasure in sex. It is not just reaching for your body, it is also touching your deepest soul. There is no greater wound that a heart broken caused by LOVE. It is a powerful word, a deep sense of touching and feeling. It is not just for fun, even though fun is a part of love itself.
You might say that the reason/excuse that you do not want to be in a serious relationship or commitment is because you don't think you love the man/woman. You just want the sex part without the drama that comes with it. Even when the two, or more, of you agreed to live this lifestyle, you should think about the value of your future, your body and your life.
After the sex, is it enough? No, you craved for more. You want more sex, you want more attention, you want more in life. It is just a human in us who always demands more, never satisfied. That is why God wants you to have sex with one person that you love and love you back in a commitment. Why? because God wired our bodies to crave for more sex and be satisfied with it in every level. From physical to emotional to orgasm LOL. God understands that and He intended for you to enjoy sex with pleasure, not being taken advantage of some selfish man/woman, not being a slave of your own addiction or others and not being dumb to think that it is OK to do it because it is what everyone else is doing.
Just because others think it is cool or OK, it doesn't have to change who you are as a person and have to agree with it. Have an integrity within yourself. I, for one, would not like for anyone to just want my body to pleased him and do not want to deal with the aftermath that comes within it. I also don't want to do that to other person. If I want a friendship with a man, then I go for a friendship, not the sex without any (personal) attachment. Sex IS personal and you already are ATTACHED when you have sex with other person. How many babies has died because you do not want the attachment in your relationship? How many hearts had been broken because of this kind of relationship? How many future has to take a different path because of it? etc.
You might feel in control when you have a say in a relationship, but are you really in charge of your life? or is it just a way to make you feel like you "gain" power over a man when you say "Hey NSA, OK?!" and you think you are powerful? I mean come on! If I am a dude then who doesn't want a woman who would like to have sex for free, no drama, no obligation, no responsibilities afterward..no matter what happened? Well..hello world?! LOL
I might be conservative in an old fashion way. But, I do value sex and especially love in a lot of ways. If someone don't wanna be your lover but want your body for sex, then I don't think they deserve the best of you. When you have sex, you give your best to that person. Unless you don't think yourself deserves a great price, then go ahead wasting your value to people who doesn't even think you are valuable enough that they are willing to respect you. If they chose to do the NSA, it simply mean they could do that to anyone at the same time they are doing it with you. No Strings Attached, right? you are free to do it with whoever and so am I.
If a person cannot or will not love you the way you should be loved, then they simply don't deserve your best!
I am not trying to be holy or good girl or whatever you implied through this blog..lol..I am just sharing my opinion. I just want you all to look at your life in a different way. In a way that God wants you to respect yourself. If you can't love yourself, you can't expect others to do the same to you. Even if you are doing it for fun or because you value commitment or love and don't feel to share it unless with the right person. Then, why waste your time, body and energy with the one that you don't see your future with them in it?. Be friend, and ditch the sex part. Sex is temporary, an overnight sensation, but you can't take it back. Whats done is done. No matter how good the sex gets, it wont beat the sensation of doing it with the one you love.
Well, there is a beauty of being in love and share it with one person for the rest of your life. It is not old fashion and no we don't miss anything by not doing the NSA part. It is just not for me, it might be for you, but consider these questions. What do you want in life? How much you value yourself by doing it? Do you see a future in that kind of relationship? What if you fall in love? What are your fears? Why are you doing that? just ask those questions and whatever your answers might be, there your life might lay in the future.
Make a wise decision before its too late or you get too comfortable and confused with what life suppose to be for you. There are many ways to enjoy sex than to waste it with a wrong person, who doesn't deserve you. There is nothing wrong to think "old fashion" in a modern world. At the end, you are the one who has to live your life and live with the consequences that comes based on what you were and are doing in it.
You want to give the best for your future wife and husband, not what's left. If you are not a virgin anymore, you don't have to keep doing it just because you are not a virgin anymore. There is a forgiveness and grace through repentance. Sex might be one of the hardest addiction, but you can control yourself when you set your goal to a better you. If you are too scare to be in a commitment, then like I said, ditched the sex and just be friend. If you are a free spirited person, who does whatever you want in life, that is your choice and I am not trying to change who you are. Just consider it an opinion from a blogger ;)
xoxo,
Lindsay
