My favorite quotations of Dr. Seuss

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HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND EVERYONE. READ SOMETHING. IT WILL INSPIRE YOU, TAKES YOU PLACES EVEN TIMES BEFORE YOU WERE BORN OR SOMETIME IN THE FUTURE, MAKES YOU DO THE THINGS YOU THINK IS IMPOSSIBLE, BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE LEVEL, GAIN THOSE WISDOM AND SHARE THE KNOWLEDGE. READING WILL MAKE YOU MORE THAN WHO YOU THINK YOU ARE AS A PERSON. 

XOXO,

Lindsay

Military Working Dogs

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“The capability they (Military Working Dogs) bring to the fight cannot be replicated by man or machine. By all measures of performance their yield outperforms any asset we have in our inventory. Our Army (and military) would be remiss if we failed to invest more in this incredibly valuable resource." 

- GENERAL DAVID H. PETRAEUS, USA

I was just spending my afternoon browsing the internet and I found this great article about a woman who is trying to help the Military Working Dogs (MWD) health benefit. This is the complete story here and their Facebook page. Please check them out and help them out as well.

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Many people don't hear much about this unit in the Police department or the Military. We often hear many stories of the fallen heroes, but very few of us realized that there are other heroes that we forgot. The four legged warriors. They served, protected and saved lives. They work long hours, regardless of the weather, surrounding or when they "don't feel like it" moment. They do their job to obey the handlers, sniffed, and found things that human or machine cannot do. Many of them also helps other troops to cope with loneliness or simply just being a great companion, and bring healing to so many people. They are the Military Working Dogs. They are also heroes!

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This is BART. He is Killed In Action (KIA) on the Chinook Helicopter last Saturday, alongside with his handler, John Douangdara (visit his Facebook Page). They are both loved in our hearts and will never be forgotten.

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Rest In God's love sweet Bart. God created you to be man's best friend and you are more than just a friend. You helped saving people's live. You served your purpose in this earth and you are honored. Heroes comes in different shapes and breeds :)

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Please take time to click on these links and support them and their handlers. It is important for us to remember that these dogs hold a very important role of saving the troop's lives and others through their service (sniffing bombs, find IED, field interview, chasing "bad people", illegal drugs, being a faithful companion, guarding, patrol, etc).

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http://www.supportmilitaryworkingdogs.org/ (mission: To provide cooling vests, and other protective gear such as Doggles, MuttLuks, and any other necessary gear
to help the Military Working Dogs in active war zones and extreme conditions, who in turn protect and serve our Soldiers.)

http://www.save-a-vet.org/ (organization that rescues military and law enforcement working animals that are otherwise non-adoptable, by providing free housing to disabled military and law enforcement veterans in exchange for living with and caring for these forgotten soldiers.)

http://www.kens5.com/news/San-Antonio-woman-lobbies-medical-benefits-for-military-dogs-127446768.html (help MWD get health benefit)

http://www.militaryworkingdogs.com/

http://www.militaryworkingdogadoptions.com/

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This is one of my favorite story of Marine Cpl. Dustin Lee and Lex. Click the story in here. Short story about these heroes, Lex is the first active duty, fully fit military working dog to be granted early retirement in order to be adopted. Working for his United States Marine Corps handler Corporal Dustin J. Lee in the Iraq War, he was wounded in an attack that killed Lee, and subsequently awarded an honorary Purple Heart.

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This is another great story of Military Working Dog named Dexter. Another MWD's story that always makes me smile and so proud to support these amazing dogs.

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Dexter’s full name is Military Working Dog Dexter CO67, but he is now retired after service in Afghanistan. Dexter served for six years, during which time he detected a garbage truck filled with explosives and saved at least a thousand military personnel and civilians. After his tour, he was scheduled to be euthanized because of hip problems and the fact that military dogs are hard to place for adoption because of their aggressiveness. His handler, Kathleen Ellison, went to work to save Dexter through the organization Military Working Dog Adoptions. Veteran Danny Scheurer, who worked with dogs during his military service, agreed to adopt Dexter and bring him home to Spring Grove, Illinois. Dexter also became the first canine member of the American Legion when he was accepted as a full member by Fox Lake American Legion Post 703.

Keep these dogs and their handlers in your heart and prayers as they served us and saving lives. Help in a way that you could. May it be prayers, donation, sending care packages to an organization that is legal and legit, adopt one, support them when they come home.

"War dogs have, indeed, served the nation well and saved many lives. Dogs continue to serve to protect Americans both in combat zones and in homeland security roles." 

- GENERAL COLIN L. POWELL, USA (Retired)

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Have a wonderful day people. May God bless these heroes and may their sacrifice will never be forgotten. They maybe a dog to you, an animal to some. But, they are heroes to me. They do things that a lot of people will not even think of doing it. Many of us just spend time complaining about the government and do nothing to change it. At least, these dogs do SOMETHING and they give their ALL for this country and the world in so many cases. Remember them, keep them in your heart and prayers. Support them!

"Technology, like the electronic frequency jammers used in Iraq to prevent bombs from being detonated by cell phones or TV remotes, has been successful, but the highest detection rates were still achieved using K-9 units and trained handlers." 

- LT. GENERAL MICHAEL L. OATES, USA

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xoxo,

Lindsay

Symbolism of Folding the American Flag

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The 1st fold of our flag is a symbol of life.

The 2nd fold is a symbol of our belief in eternal life.

The 3rd fold is made in honor and remembrance of the veterans departing our ranks who gave a portion of their lives for the defense of our country to attain peace throughout the world.

The 4th fold represents our weaker nature, for as American citizens trusting in God, it is to Him we turn in times of peace as well as in time of war for His divine guidance.

The 5th fold is a tribute to our country, for in the words of Stephen Decaur, "Our Country, in dealing with other countries, may she always be right; but it is still our country, right or wrong."

The 6th fold is for where our hearts lie. It is with our hearts that, "We pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States Of America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one Nation under God, indivisible, with Liberty and Justice for all."

The 7th fold is a tribute to our Armed Forces, for it is through the Armed Forces that we protect our country and our flag against all her enemies, whether they be found within or without the boundaries of our republic.

The 8th fold is a tribute to the one who entered into the valley of the shadow of death, that we might see the light of day.

The 9th fold is a tribute to womanhood, and Mothers. For it has been through their faith, their love, loyalty and devotion that the character of the men and women who have made this country great has been molded.

The 10th fold is a tribute to the fathers, for they, too, have given their sons and daughters for the defense of our country since they were first born.

The 11th fold represents the lower portion of the seal of King David and King Solomon and glorifies in the Hebrews' eyes, the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.

The 12th fold represents an emblem of eternity and glorifies, in the Christians' eyes, God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit.

The 13th fold, or when the flag is completely folded, the stars are uppermost reminding us of our nation's motto, "In God We Trust."

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A Sad Day For The Navy SEALs

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Aug. 6, 2011

A helicopter was shot down today by Afghan insurgents as it was rushing to aid troops in a firefight, killing 30 Americans, including 22 Navy SEALs, most of whom belonged to Team 6, the unit whose members were involved in the raid that killed Osama bin Laden, U.S. officials said.

The Chinook helicopter was carrying a quick-reaction force to provide back-up to the troops on the ground in the eastern Afghan province of Wardak, a U.S. official said. After the crash, the forces that were involved in the firefight "broke contact" with the enemy so they could go provide perimeter security for the crash site, the official said. click here for a complete story

That was the news I read and heard yesterday morning. It was a sad week for me, personally, because the day before I just read the news about 10 people killed in a helicopter crashed in my hometown in Manado, North Sulawesi. There were 2 Australian, 2 South Africans, 6 Indonesian and one of them is a Manadonese. The complete story, click here.

I am a proud Navy wife and the news about the death of the 22 Navy Seals, seven members of the Afghan National Army, one dog handler, a military working dog, an interpreter and an unknown number of crew were also on board the downed helicopter, was a hard and sad news. But, there are things that is out of our control as a human. Its hard for us, human, with our limitation, to understand the "why or what" certain things happened in our lives. No matter how smart, rich, powerful we are. We are just a human being and we are limited.

What we can do is to pray for the families and friends who lost their loved ones in these incidents. We can also support the Navy Seal Foundation, click here for more information http://www.nswfoundation.org/

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Rest In Peace my heroes! Rest in God's loving arms forever. Please pray for their families as they face the hardest day of their lives. May God gives you all strength, comfort and hope to face tomorrow. One step at a time. God will never forsaken you, family! Words will never be enough to express our love and gratitude for your ultimate sacrifice.

This is one video of one of the Seal who died. Aaron Vaughn, your life and death has blessed me beyond words. Rest In God's arms and embrace His love :)

These are the complete names of those who died. Please do not forget the Afghan's special forces and their families who died alongside with our troops.

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"A nation is revealed not only by the men it produces, 

but by the men it honors, 

the men it remembers"

(President John F. Kennedy)

♥ Rest in God's arms ♥

"Fair winds and following seas"

xoxo,

Lindsay

Got Problem?

"When I cannot read, 

when I cannot think, 

when I cannot even pray, 

I can trust." 

(Hudson Taylor)

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Sometimes when life is too much to handle, the pain is too unbearable and too complicated to understand the "why" factor, then we feel trapped, lost and alone. Many times we caused our own problems. Sometimes other people caused it and we are in the middle of it. Sometimes it just happened, out of our control, sudden and painful.

When you feel like God is not answering your prayers or is too busy to care for you. When you feel like no one cares. When you don't know how to be alive again. Try to breathe and trusting God. I know it sounds funny, but give God a chance to help you. It is not easy to see God in the midst of your own tears, disappointment and struggling, especially one that caused by those who suppose to love you, care for you or protect you. In some worst cases, there are people who even dare to use god's name for their terrible action. I am sorry for their action and I can assure you, it is NOT God who told them to hurt you, it is their own action that they justified with the word "God."

Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. (1 John 4:8)

...........................And what exactly is love?...................................

"Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends." (1 Corinthians 13:4-8a)

Trusting God does not mean that He will answer things according to what YOU want, but He will help you get through this problem. He will give you what's best for you. It might be hard, too much and hurt for now, but sometimes it is for the best. We do not know what future holds, but He does. We might think what we lost is everything there is in life, but if you trust God to show you what He has for your future, you will be amazed. God has an incredible mind, too complicated for us to understand it. But, He knows best.

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Whatever you are dealing right now. I am praying for you and remember, this too shall pass. Stay strong! You have a God who created you, love you for who you are and longing to show you His best options for your life. Just trust Him and let Him show you the reward of your faith.

♥ Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight ♥ (Proverbs 3:5-6)

xoxo,

Lindsay

When the "outsider" influenced your marriage

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Lately, some of my very close friends has been dealing with separation, divorce and bitterness with their other half. It is very sad when two people who used to love each other turns into hating each other or chose to stop fight by ending the relationship. Even though I might not agree with divorce, I totally understand why people do that. I am a product of a divorce household. As sad as it might seem, some people are better not to be together in the first place. I have to be honest and say that I wished my parents were getting along well, but they were not. In fact, divorce might be one "good" decision they have ever made. I feel so sinful by saying it.

As a Christian, I am against divorce for sure. But, when your life is in danger of spousal abuse and other things that might make you or your children in danger of losing their lives, then you should seek help. Divorce should and must be the last decision in every marriage. Fight for your marriage, try very hard to make it work and be selfless. It is not a sign of weakness, it takes courage to be humble, in order to win something as important as your marriage.

There are a lot of things that made you realize that you need to end the relationship. It might be because you found a new one (aka cheating lol), comparison with others that seemed and might be better than your marriage, differences, abuse, financial troubles, and a million other excuses and reasons.

 One of them that you might or might not realized is the OUTSIDER factors.

Now, let me explain, the insider first. The insider are your spouse and only him/her. Then comes the second layer of insider, your children. The outsiders are your parents, your family, your in laws, friends, co worker, stranger, celebrity and etc.

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Don't get me wrong, family and friends are one of the most important people in our lives. But, they can either make you better, break you apart or cheer you to your divorce gates. For some cases it might be good, but for a lot of cases, NOT!

I have heard wives complained about how their in laws are so-very annoying, and too involved in their lives. I have heard husbands who complained of how much the in laws makes their wives turn against him. As funny as it gets, but your family can destroy your own marriage. Be careful and be very wise to filter and judge which information is useful and which are trash.

If you have a great family, thank God! But if you have a family who is more like a dictator than a loving parent, then be careful. Don't let this "outsider" decided whats best for you. Listen to them if they are right, but avoid them if they are trying to break what suppose to be unbreakable.

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A loving family and friends will not want to watch you fall into a deep valley of depression, abuse or never ending hurt. If they are trying to help, they will also do it out of love and respect toward your spouse. They are not the one who is living your marriage life, you and your spouse are, for life.

A loving family and friends will always be there for you. Not just when things are great, the grass are green. They are there when the sky is dark. They suppose to love you and at least show some concern when you are struggling or down in life. Those who showed up when things are great, happy and fun, are those who only love you IF and WHEN things are good. Those are NOT your real family and friends.

They might be related to you, but they do not care about you. Those who were there when you were on top of the mountain and when you are all the way down in the valley, are those who truly loves you and care about you.

I hate it when family judging you based on their own feelings and not facts. I dislike when family member taking credit for something that they were not even care in the first place. You know, the one who THINK they deserve the glory because they are family but NEVER act like one. I found it both funny and annoying.

Next time when you fight with your spouse, ask theses questions in your head:

- What did your spouse do that caused you this fight?

- Who and what influenced you to fight? Is it between the two of you or is it because of other people? including your family and friends!

- What will you gain after this fight is over? It it to become better or worse?

- Is this fight even worth it?

Don't confuse between advice and order. Don't let other people determined your happiness or dictate you how to live YOUR marriage. Some grass are greener, because you do not live there. Some marriage seems better because thats how they wanted you to see it. Everyone has problems in marriage, but not everyone is wise enough to fight for it. Even worst, when you ended your marriage or fight constantly because of the "Outsiders."

Remember, value their opinion, filter it, but don't let them decide or dictate how to live your marriage life.

Parents, RESPECT your children's spouse. 

You must let them live their own lives and trust them. Your involvement is needed when asked, but it does not mean you could interfere their lives all the time. On the other hand, be there for your children and their families as a helper that they wanted you to be, not as a "god" who control everything. Some parents still can't believe that their boy or girl is a grown up and is married and is capable to love their spouse. God intended for them to love each other. Human, including family and friends, should not break their love!

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xoxo,

Lindsay

Casey Anthony is NOT guilty?!?!

The famous case of Casey Anthony‎. You can read the full story here!

"Moreover, I saw under the sun that in the place of justice, even there was wickedness, and in the place of righteousness, even there was wickedness. I said in my heart, God will judge the righteous and the wicked, for there is a time for every matter and for every work." - Ecclesiastes 3:16-17

I am in no position to judge her. I just hope and pray that whoever killed this little girl will be responsible for his/her action in the court of law. Nobody get away with murder, whether its intended or not. It is a sad moment :(

After the trial, people started to think that there should be a law to protect children, like Caylee Anthony. They called it "Caylee's Law" Caylee's Law is the unofficial name for proposed bills in several states that would make it a felony for a parent or legal guardian to fail to report a missing child, in cases where the parent knew or should have known that the child was possibly in danger. The bill was introduced shortly after the Casey Anthony trial, due to Anthony not reporting her two year old daughter Caylee Marie Anthony missing for a period of 31 days.

You should read about it and if you agree with it, then sign the petition to let your voice be heard. You can sign here

Have a great weekend readers :) xoxo

When You Feel Far From God

‎"And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age."
-Jesus- (Matthew 28:20)

Sometimes, we don't know how to pray or how to get out of some heavy burdens that life caused us. I feel that so many times, countless. This verse is a short, meaningful and powerful to memorize. When you doubt God's goodness in your life or even His presence, remember this verse!

God remains the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. He never move away from you, we move away and even sometimes pushed Him away from our lives. But, guess what? He remains the same. You can't pushed God away. He doesn't think like us, doesn't feel like us. He is not limited by time, place and circumstances.

He is Omnipresence (present everywhere), Omnipotence (unlimited power), Omniscience (the capacity to know everything).

With that being said, my prayers for all of you today, whether you believe in God or not, Christian or not, is that you will be able to face today and tomorrow. You are not, and will never be alone in this life. You dont have to be alone!

There are things that we can't explain, some calls is destiny, fate, or miracles. There are moments that we could not take it back due to our limitation as a human. But, there are things that still remains a mystery, simply because we could not see the future and whats in there for us. But, anything that you decide and do today will impact the result of that future. Chose wisely, no need to be in a rush, and pray or should I say..just talk to God in your own bedroom. Just you and Him. Instead of paying a shrink, its easier and no fee to talk with God LOL! Do you know that people see shrink not because they wanted to hear what they say to fix them, but they just wanted someone who listen? :)

"Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." (Isaiah 41:10)

10 tips to avoid stress before vacation

Hello readers, I am so excited today because tomorrow, my husband and I will be leaving on a jet plane to paradise on earth. I am talking about Maui, Hawaii. I refer to any beautiful places as "PARADISE." We have been to Hawaii a lot of times but mostly for work. So, this time we will go there to celebrate our 5 years anniversary. Gotta love marriage life ;)

Excitement, yes! Also, I have noticed that vacation sometimes can bring the not so fun side. It is the fact that we wanted it to be the perfect getaway that we sometimes over think it. We are worry about finding the right time to ask our boss for days off. We started checking our bank account to see how much money we can spend and how to save. We also wanted to wear the right outfits, prepare for a hot body (especially when you are going to some summer/beach vacation).

So, these are some tips that I would like to share with you all. These are some steps that helps me to avoid stress before the great adventure begin.

1. PLAN A MONTH EARLIER.

OK, some of you might like it to be a surprise getaway. But, I find it helpful to plan 3 to 4 weeks earlier. That way we can breathe easily to plan about days off, taking care of our financial, plan activities and prepare our hot body to be bikini ready lol.

2. WRITE DOWN THE LIST.

A. When and where to go. (Date, destination and place to stay)

B. What to do/ plan the activities that will be fun for everyone.

C. Budget. Also find out about discounts and great deals that the hotel, car rent, etc, offered. You will be surprised of how much money you could have saved because you asked if they have special promo/discount.

D. What to wear. Have a vision of what would be your "theme" based on where you are going, the season and the activities. If you have trouble about finding a good deal or outfits, then google it. Sometimes flipping some fashion magazines also helps me find ideas of what to wear or how to make it work.

E. What to bring. That way, you could starting buy one by one of all the stuff you will be needed for the big day. Also, you have some time to look at your drawer and closet to see what you don't need to buy because you still have them somewhere in the house LOL.

3. IF YOU WANT TO LOOK GOOD THEN START DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

This is why point # 1 is a good thing, we have time to prepare. If you want to have a beach body or simply just wanna be healthy on the vacation and look good, then do something to reach your goal. Start planning your workout and nutrition. Stick with it! If there is one or two days that you missed the workout, don't get stressed out. Do it the next day! Just make sure you make time to workout 3 to 4 days/week. Do some easy run and some weight lifting to show off those sexy muscles.

4. START TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS.

Finish those deadlines at work, don't miss a day of working. If you are a student, start working on those homework. Two days before you are due to leave, make sure you finished everything that needed to be done. From cleaning the house and make sure someone will take care of the pet (if you have one), to finish the deadline at work or school. Don't forget to pay the bills that needed to be paid (automatic payment/online is a great faster way) so when you are home from vacation, you still have an electricity and no extra late-fee for a late payment on the mortgage or apartment LOL.

5. DON'T LET ANYONE TAKE YOUR HAPPINESS AWAY.

I don't know about you, but sometimes when we are about to have something exciting, a bad news or things happened. It could really destroy your plan and even wears you down. Well don't be! Stay away from people who will not support your decision to have a vacation that you deserve. Don't let anyone take your happiness away. We all deserves a vacation in this stressful life, especially if you are a hardworking person.

6. START PACKING 3 TO 5 DAYS BEFORE THE FLIGHT.

I love to pack early! I find it less stressful and plus I don't have to be in a hurry and I know what I need and don't need. I also will not forget things that needed to come with me on the trip. My husband is different than me. He always pack the last minute and that works for him, but way too stressful for me to just watch him packing. Make sure to wrap things that spills in a Ziploc's bag. Wrap your shoes/flip flop in a plastic bag so it wont make your dress dirty. Separate things that you will carry with you and things that will go in the baggage. Don't bring things that you will not need or that you know you don't love. Bring things that you love only, that way you will use them.

Also, a week before the vacation, check out the weather just so you know what to wear and expect. If anything needed to be change, like an activity due to a changing weather, then you have an extra plans ;)

7. CHARGE YOUR CAMERA, VIDEO CAMERA, LAPTOP, AND PHONE

The night before the flight, charge your phone, camera/video camera, laptop, etc. Then do not forget to put the chargers with you. Fill up the gas to your car so the next day you won't worry about gas.

8. PUT THE LUGGAGE ON THE FRONT DOOR.

A night before the flight, have the flight itinerary printed out already (print out the reservations will be helpful and save time as well). Bring some cash to make some transaction easier. Make sure you have your passport if you are going out of the country. Double check your wallet for ID, cash, etc. Put things that you will be needed in your carry on, like phone, iPod, snacks, extra tshirt and remember the TSA rules of what you can and cannot bring on the flight.

Lay the outfits that you will wear the night before. Wear something easy and comfortable, also easier for the security check point. Wear a flip flop or an easy shoes to take on and off LOL.

Call your neighbor or family member to let them know where you are going and to give them a contact number, just in case an emergency happened. If you are comfortable to share this kind of information. Sometimes, it is nice to just go on a "secret" vacation :)

P.S. If you have a baby/children, then you have to get things ready earlier. Click/check out this website for some tips of traveling with babies/kids.

9. DO AN EASY WORKOUT BEFORE THE TRIP AND EAT GOOD.

Enjoy your night before the flight. Set your alarm clock and set the snooze. Have a smiley face when you sleep knowing that you have accomplished things that needed to be done. You are at this point suppose to be looking forward to your vacation and don't need to worry about work, or did I do this questions ;)

10. LOCK THE DOOR, ENJOY YOUR VACATION.

When you get things done earlier, there is a huge relief. No last minute worry, shopping or stressing out over something that you don't have to, had you do it earlier. You don't forget things and no need to buy it because you leave them at home. You are mentally and physically ready. Vacation is a must in a year for everyone. Work, save and enjoy the fruit of your hard work. Vacation doesn't need to be fancy and expensive. A local trip is fun as well. Bring the right people to the right place.

Now get out of the house, check your security alarm, double check around the house if anything needed to be turned on/off, lock the door. Go to the airport earlier is saving so much time, no need to drive like a maniac, beat the long line at the security check point and get your dream seat on the plane.

ENJOY LIFE!

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......A-L-O-H-A.....xoxo, Lindsay

No Strings Attached

According to Urban Dictionary, No Strings Attached (NSA)means: Doing something for someone without asking for anything in return. There is another source that pretty much explains it as well. This one is from Wiktionary and it says, Characterized by an absence of conditions or obligations or unconditional. It sounds like a great, ideal way of being a hero and being a Good Samaritan.

But I am not going to write about a Good Samaritan. This time, I want to talk about "No Strings Attached" from a "love" relationship's angle. From this website it says NSA is Where two people decide to engage in a sexual relationship that has no ties or expectation with regards to finances, exclusivity or romance. Literally, there are no strings binding the two together.

Many people these days, especially young people, think that this is a cool relationship. First of all, it doesn't have to involve commitment and then there is a catch, you can pretty much do anything any lover does without the C (commitment) word. Its a win win situation, right?. Especially for those who are not ready to be involve in a committed relationship, fear about it or had a bad experience of it. Whatever your reason or excuses, people have their own opinion about it and so am I ;)

I, for one, is against this. I mean, if you don't want to be involved in a relationship then at least avoid the sex part. Think about it! Whose advantage is it to have access to your body (and maybe soul), without any commitment to their actions?. If you are pregnant, I am not into it. If you get any sexual disease ..oopps!! If you fall in love, don't be, because I am not into it.

Sex is not just a word to pleasure your body. God intended sex to be between a husband and a wife. A man and a woman in a committed relationship, to honor and to love each other. Why does God want it to be that way? Because there is a deep, intimate pleasure in sex. It is not just reaching for your body, it is also touching your deepest soul. There is no greater wound that a heart broken caused by LOVE. It is a powerful word, a deep sense of touching and feeling. It is not just for fun, even though fun is a part of love itself.

You might say that the reason/excuse that you do not want to be in a serious relationship or commitment is because you don't think you love the man/woman. You just want the sex part without the drama that comes with it. Even when the two, or more, of you agreed to live this lifestyle, you should think about the value of your future, your body and your life.

After the sex, is it enough? No, you craved for more. You want more sex, you want more attention, you want more in life. It is just a human in us who always demands more, never satisfied. That is why God wants you to have sex with one person that you love and love you back in a commitment. Why? because God wired our bodies to crave for more sex and be satisfied with it in every level. From physical to emotional to orgasm LOL. God understands that and He intended for you to enjoy sex with pleasure, not being taken advantage of some selfish man/woman, not being a slave of your own addiction or others and not being dumb to think that it is OK to do it because it is what everyone else is doing.

Just because others think it is cool or OK, it doesn't have to change who you are as a person and have to agree with it. Have an integrity within yourself. I, for one, would not like for anyone to just want my body to pleased him and do not want to deal with the aftermath that comes within it. I also don't want to do that to other person. If I want a friendship with a man, then I go for a friendship, not the sex without any (personal) attachment. Sex IS personal and you already are ATTACHED when you have sex with other person. How many babies has died because you do not want the attachment in your relationship? How many hearts had been broken because of this kind of relationship? How many future has to take a different path because of it? etc.

You might feel in control when you have a say in a relationship, but are you really in charge of your life? or is it just a way to make you feel like you "gain" power over a man when you say "Hey NSA, OK?!" and you think you are powerful? I mean come on! If I am a dude then who doesn't want a woman who would like to have sex for free, no drama, no obligation, no responsibilities afterward..no matter what happened? Well..hello world?! LOL

I might be conservative in an old fashion way. But, I do value sex and especially love in a lot of ways. If someone don't wanna be your lover but want your body for sex, then I don't think they deserve the best of you. When you have sex, you give your best to that person. Unless you don't think yourself deserves a great price, then go ahead wasting your value to people who doesn't even think you are valuable enough that they are willing to respect you. If they chose to do the NSA, it simply mean they could do that to anyone at the same time they are doing it with you. No Strings Attached, right? you are free to do it with whoever and so am I.

If a person cannot or will not love you the way you should be loved, then they simply don't deserve your best!

I am not trying to be holy or good girl or whatever you implied through this blog..lol..I am just sharing my opinion. I just want you all to look at your life in a different way. In a way that God wants you to respect yourself. If you can't love yourself, you can't expect others to do the same to you. Even if you are doing it for fun or because you value commitment or love and don't feel to share it unless with the right person. Then, why waste your time, body and energy with the one that you don't see your future with them in it?. Be friend, and ditch the sex part. Sex is temporary, an overnight sensation, but you can't take it back. Whats done is done. No matter how good the sex gets, it wont beat the sensation of doing it with the one you love.

Well, there is a beauty of being in love and share it with one person for the rest of your life. It is not old fashion and no we don't miss anything by not doing the NSA part. It is just not for me, it might be for you, but consider these questions. What do you want in life? How much you value yourself by doing it? Do you see a future in that kind of relationship? What if you fall in love? What are your fears? Why are you doing that? just ask those questions and whatever your answers might be, there your life might lay in the future.

Make a wise decision before its too late or you get too comfortable and confused with what life suppose to be for you. There are many ways to enjoy sex than to waste it with a wrong person, who doesn't deserve you. There is nothing wrong to think "old fashion" in a modern world. At the end, you are the one who has to live your life and live with the consequences that comes based on what you were and are doing in it.

You want to give the best for your future wife and husband, not what's left. If you are not a virgin anymore, you don't have to keep doing it just because you are not a virgin anymore. There is a forgiveness and grace through repentance. Sex might be one of the hardest addiction, but you can control yourself when you set your goal to a better you. If you are too scare to be in a commitment, then like I said, ditched the sex and just be friend. If you are a free spirited person, who does whatever you want in life, that is your choice and I am not trying to change who you are. Just consider it an opinion from a blogger ;)

xoxo,

Lindsay