Love is NOT blind!

I have heard this saying, "Love Is Blind", since I was a baby lol. I mean, people have their own opinion, reason and excuse about everything in life, including your own opinion for a certain statement, such as:

 LOVE is blind.

I have always disagree with this statement, simply because I, personally, think that we must be able to see to understand and to love someone or something. Yes, your heart could also see beyond what eyes have not seen. Your eyes, brain and heart must work together to accomplished a balance judgement, decision and choices in life.

We must be able to open our eyes to see the imperfection, injustice, fear, abuse, passion, talent, etc. We must be able to see so that we will have compassion about something or someone. If we chose to close both eyes and be "blind" about love, then we will never know whether it is love, lust or attraction or temporary feelings. When we are "blind", we are lost in the dark, not knowing what to do or what suppose to be done (In this context, I am not talking about/trying to make fun of blind people).

I am a big believer of if I am about to be in a relationship with a man, I have to like that man, I have to at least have a physical attraction to him. Come on! You cannot say it is all about the heart and you do not care of what they look like physically. I am not talking about a certain race, body shape, face shape, etc, because beauty is in the eye of the beholder, right? I am talking about personal attraction (physically). Everyone has different taste when it comes to see other people's beauty. Personality is a huge part and a great heart is also a double plus points, but if you are not attracted to that person at all, then it is hard to build a relationship with him/her because someday, sooner or later, you will try to change them or wished they look like someone else or you will find someone else that will make you re-think your choice. 

A lot of people chose to be blind when it comes to loving someone, too blind that they let this other person treated them like crap, disrespectful and almost like a sad recycle garbage, excuse the comparison, I chose it wisely so that we understand that we are NOT a garbage. We are a human being who deserves better than a punching bag or visiting hours only when they want something from us and then throw it away after they get tired or bored with us. That is not healthy and NOT love either! Love should make your eyes open with gladness, your heart flourished with happiness and your brain smiles. Love does not make you forget who you are as a person, love does not create fear, love does not mean you lost yourself so that the other person would/might like you, love honors you, love respects you and love treats you as a human being with dignity and soul.

All I am saying is that to love someone, you must OPEN your eyes (heart and brain), so that you will be able to understand them as a person, to accept things about them, to learn about them, to love them regardless of their weaknesses and strength. THAT is why love is not blind, to see is to understand-accept-learn-love and be loved for who you are (or he/she is) as a person.

How do you know that someone loves you? through their words and actions. You need to SEE the facts and the proof that they love you. 

I stand with "Love is NOT blind" :)

xoxo,

Lindsay

Single or Taken?

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Ouch!! 

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A dear friend of mine posted this image on her Facebook's page a while ago and I found it very true, funny and sad at the same time!

When we were little, girls loves to fantasize of her prince charming, the knight in shinning armor who would do anything for her, loves her and treat her like a princess everyday.

If you grew up with a father whom you considered as your "hero", then there is a huge possibility that you will find a man who reflected your father. Not in a gross way, come on!! LOL!!

I meant a man who in so many ways reminds you of your father as far as his character, his hard work, his dedication and how he treated you as a human being.

If you grew up with a father who failed to do his job as a father, then there is a possibility that you ended up confused with men. You have no idea of what a great man is all about or how they should treat you and what is the man's position/roles in a marriage, because you never had one good male figure in your life.

On the other hand, even if you grew up with a bad father, it actually makes you very picky to chose your soul mate, because you do not want your life to ended up like your mother and you do not want you future kids to suffer what you went through as a child (to present time - yes parents, you left scars on your children's lives, it affected us in so many ways).

At the end of the day, we met some men, 

some of them are great, 

some of them are jerk, 

and WE ended up picked ONE that we thought qualified as our "Prince Charming".

Fast forward...

Once you entered a life called "marriage", your world changes!

Things that we did not see when we were dating is starting to appeared, 

things that we hate and love as well.

There are people who are really good at hiding the "true color" of their soul.

Some learned to be better and actually trying to be the best,

Others are too selfish to let go of their bad side.

Many became a bad (or good) one because something happened in their lives that changed their good behavior to be bad and their bad behavior to be good.

If your marriage is taking a down stroll, then you are one of the "Taken and not in love"s group?

Well, I think that there are some steps before we got into that phase in a relationship:

1. Love - Married/Dating - Lost the love

2. Not in love - Married/Dating - Fall in love

 3. Not in love - Married/Dating - Still not in love

4. Love - Married/Dating - Still in love

LOL, right?

So, which one are you at this point? Ideally, people would love to be number four, because it is the perfect kind of relationship, but sadly, not all of us could experience it. 

"Marriage doesn't create problems. It reveals them. You bring unresolved stuff into it."

Rick Warren 

Now, let's move on to the single ladies/men,

woot woot!!

I found it very true when people say they are single and happy, 

if that is really their honest feeling, 

because it is simply mean they are not ready to get involved in any relationship.

It is better to admit it, instead of rushing into any relationship based on a moment of passionate sex or a pressure from everyone else who wanted you to be in a relationship, when you, yourself, are not ready.

"You can't hurry love, right?"

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Now, for those who are single and ready to be in a relationship but has not meet up with the right man/woman yet,

are you still single and happy or single and miserable?

This is for you to answer yourself.

But hey..,

I would rather wait for the right one, enjoy my single life without any drama and do things that will benefits myself in the future instead of rushing into a relationship, get all the drama that you don't need and then your life becomes worst than "The Real Housewives of Hell".

It's harder to fix the broken heart and clean up the mess it created than to be in a relationship with someone. I would rather check the "single" box in my Facebook account than to check the "Its complicated" one..

whew!! 

I just can't deal with anything that is complicated.

Even though, I can't speak up for any relationship that is complicated because when it comes to love, you get mixed feelings, emotions, logical thinking, and "sacred" moments.

Its harder to let go when you are in a relationship,

there is an emotional connection that is hard to break.

But, in a very bad situation,
always remember to save yourself
so you can save others!

What do I love the most of being married to my husband?

COMPANIONSHIP

and that is my final and honest answer!

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Singles and Doubles,

Taken or not,

In or out of love,

have a great Friday

T.G.I.F

;)

xoxo,

Lindsay