I Hate You!

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HATE!

A strong word.

I REALLY HATE YOU/HER/HIM/THEM!

Bitterness & powerful statement.

I WISH THEM ALL THE BAD THINGS ON EARTH!

The "Karma" thoughts

I WANNA DO SOMETHING BAD TO THEM!

Revenge.

I WILL NEVER FORGIVE OR FORGET IT!

Consume your life.

When people do bad things toward us, especially when all we do was being good to them, or at least that is what we thought we did, is hurtful.

When strangers do hurtful things toward us, we get mad but it is easier to let it go because we do not know them personally. The anger comes fast and might be gone faster too because there is no emotional connection. We get mad, we punch them or say bad things, then/or we move on (in some cases, not really, lol).

When people dear to us, like a family member, spouse, children, and friends do us wrong, that is even more unbearable. The hurt, the betrayal, the pain and the "I cannot believe it," moment. They are family and friends, they suppose to be nice-supportive-good toward us, right?!

Ideally, we suppose to be nice to each other, especially those who are dear to us.

But, in reality, people are people.

We all have our own strength, weaknesses, flaws, needs, hot button, past and present life.

We will say or do things that we do not expect us to say or do based on what our past taught us or what the present moment offered us to say or do.

People comes with a different baggage on their back, some has been carrying it for way too long, never unpack it.

In other words, many of us carried the extra weight that we do not actually need in life.

There are things that we need to let it go because it is beyond our control.

There are moments that we need to forget because it is not worth the space in our brain and heart.

Do YOURSELF a favor and learn to let it go.

The bad things that people did to you, may it be a lesson for us not to do that to other people and not to fall on the same mistake twice.

We will not be able to go back to that moment and do something differently, it is already happened in our past, beyond our control. 

The hatred that you have in your heart and brain is consuming your life. 

What does it mean? 

It means it dictates your every move, it follows you like a ghost, it limits your ability to trust-love-care again, it makes you sad and depressed, it makes you sick physically, it makes you crippled mentally and drained your faith spiritually. It takes away precious moments from those who loves you because you are too busy thinking and in a way buried yourself in your old wound that suppose to be healed by now. 

If you keep stabbing the wound, it creates deepest scar. 

You do not need that in life, do you?.

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"Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.”

Romans 12:19

"For he is God's servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God's wrath on the wrongdoer."

Romans 13:4

"So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin."

James 4:17

"The sun shall be no more your light by day, nor for brightness shall the moon give you light, but the Lord will be your everlasting light and your God will be your glory. Your sun shall no more go down, nor your moon withdraw itself; for the Lord will be your everlasting light, and your days of mourning shall be ended." 
Isaiah 60:19-20

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From my own experience, when I did wrong to other people, I cannot sleep well, I keep thinking about it until I make peace with them. In other word, those who hurts you has its own "nature punishment". 

We reap what we sow, right? 

It simply means if we do something bad, that seed will haunt us and we will pay the price of what we did. 

This is why we need to make peace with ourselves, people that we hurt and people who hurt us, for our own goodness and sanity and because God said so! (John 14:15)

Have a good day,

Unpack those extra weight,

Give your back a rest 

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xoxo,

Lindsay

Love Those Who Hates You!

LOVE is a powerful word yet it has been used way too many times, too often and too easy that made people confused the very meaning of love itself. It is overused that people almost get lost of what love really means.

Love is love, people said, and yet they hate the people who against their opinion or view of what they think define the word "love". Love is not love when it hurts other people involved in it. Love is not love when it means you violate other people's life. Love is not love when you are taking advantage of other people. Love is not love when you wanted to marry a person who already has a spouse, even though the feeling is mutual, it is still wrong, and love is pure. Love is not love when all you think about is to satisfy yourself, and the list continues on. Love does not mean I have to agree with you all the time. A parent who thinks love means give everything and anything to their children so that they will be happy, even though they know there are things that are not good for their children, do not love their children.

LOVE is a feeling, love is a commandment, love is a relationship, love is a blessing, love is a gift, love also means to hug your enemy with a never ending compassion that beats in your heart, for as long as you live.

The question is HOW?

How do we love those who hates us? How do you even like to be in the same room with those who clearly cannot stand you and vice versa? How do you love those who hates you because you are different than them? How do you love those who make fun of you because of your appearance? How do you love those who disagree with you? How do you love those who hates you?

"For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have?" (Matthew 5:46a)

It is harder to love those who hates you than to love those who already love you in the first place. 

The key to love those who hates, dislike or cannot stand you is to have a better understanding of who they are as a human being. Get to know a person, their upbringing, their ups and downs in life. A person becomes who they are today because of how their past treated them. Build a friendship instead of a wall.

What makes us, human, unique is that we have our differences and that leads to a lot of opinions, views and principles in life. We value different things, we love and hate certain things, we like and dislike some things. But, in every differences we have, we must have at least one thing that we like or love in common. Instead of keep fighting and arguing on the things that makes us hates each other, why don't we talk or embrace the things that we both like? One thing that we both enjoy would make a better life than fighting over one thing that we hate. Pastor Miles McPherson of the Rock Church in San Diego talked about it on Sunday and it is powerful!

I realize that in this life, we will meet a lot of people with a lot of background, upbringing, religion, belief, faith, preference and the list goes on. We can not control everything in this world, we can not always win every conversation, we can not push our belief to others, we can not agree with everything because there are things that we think is the truth, right or wrong, and others will think the opposite. You know what the good news is all about in this issue? We do NOT have to agree with everyone and everything to love someone. 

The problem with society these days, is that some people think that when someone disagree with them, it is simply mean "hater". Just like love is being overused, so is the word hate. Disagree simply means you have your opinion and I have mine, with our own reasons. Does it mean I hate you? nope! It means I have different opinion than yours. Some like their tea with honey, some like it with sugar and some just want it plain. Some like it hot, some like cold. Some wants some lemon, some wants none. When people disagree with you, it is good to listen to their reasons, facts and the why factors behind it, instead of closing your ears and eyes, yet you open your mouth with the word "HATE".

"Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you; reprove a wise man, and he will love you. Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser; teach a righteous man, and he will increase in learning." (Proverbs 9:8-9)

Stop Judging Others!

So, does it mean we must be free to do everything we want? No, everything has its limit and boundary. Without limits, you will put yourself and others into confusion and danger. That is why we still have rules, law and legal system :)

Does it mean we can not remind someone that they take a wrong way? It is always how you say it that make people accept your opinion or hates you. If you know someone you love do something illegal and they could go to jail because of it, would you rather see them go to jail because you are afraid they will tell you the "Don't judge me" card?. 

Be wise to pick a conversation, put love above all things. You tell them because you love them, not because you are trying to judge them or because you think you are better than them. There is no one on this earth that is blameless and sinless, but it does not mean we can not remind each other of what is right, wrong and true.

Some people said "Don't Judge", because either they know that there is a God who will judge us fair and we  are all sinning or they love doing a certain thing that they know it is wrong but they wanted to continue doing it. So if they advised others to stop doing whatever "it" is they are doing that is wrong, that would make them hypocrite? This word has become way overused, just like love and hate LOL. 

See, the thing is that we are all human, and we will continue to make mistake everyday and that is why we must repent everyday. Temptation comes everyday, the war is within ourselves with our own self. I am my own enemy. The devil could not make me do it, I do it, the devil only gives me some ideas, but he is not that powerful to make me do it, unless I wanna do it on the first place. 

I did sin A, it was wrong and I knew it. I see my friend is about to do this sin A, should I tell her to stop before it was too late just like my own experience or should I just let her go for it, do what makes you happy-even though I know it is wrong based on my own experience? Should I tell her or should I just shut my mouth up because I am too afraid of the "hypocrite" label people put on me?. Tell her what you know about it based on YOUR own experience and what it does to your life. If she still chose to do it, then it is her choice, but you did what you must as a loving friend who does not wanna see her friend get hurt. Again, it is how we say it and what motivates us to say it. Is it love, self righteous, judgmental minded, selfishness, hate or simply big mouth who does not think first yet always open their mouth to say hurtful things.

Sometimes your act of love speaks louder than words. So, if you know you are dealing with issues that requires action and not words, then it is time to speak up when they ask your opinion. Nobody can beat the words, "I am here if you need me", "I will always be your friend no matter what", "What can I do to help you?"or "I understand, I have been there". 

When people hates you because you are different, 

love them anyway. 

When people makes fun of you because of your principles or values in life, 

love them anyway. 

When people attacked you because you disagree with them, 

love them anyway. 

In life, we will always meet those who agree/disagree with us, what are you gonna do? 

Hide? Hate? Anti Social? Gossip?

Stand true to the TRUTH, 

and at the same time love them who dislike you because you disagree with them. 

We don't need to agree with everyone all the time. I have an opinion, you have yours.

 If you don't agree with me, 

I still love you

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Love ALWAYS win

xoxo,

Lindsay