Love is NOT blind!

I have heard this saying, "Love Is Blind", since I was a baby lol. I mean, people have their own opinion, reason and excuse about everything in life, including your own opinion for a certain statement, such as:

 LOVE is blind.

I have always disagree with this statement, simply because I, personally, think that we must be able to see to understand and to love someone or something. Yes, your heart could also see beyond what eyes have not seen. Your eyes, brain and heart must work together to accomplished a balance judgement, decision and choices in life.

We must be able to open our eyes to see the imperfection, injustice, fear, abuse, passion, talent, etc. We must be able to see so that we will have compassion about something or someone. If we chose to close both eyes and be "blind" about love, then we will never know whether it is love, lust or attraction or temporary feelings. When we are "blind", we are lost in the dark, not knowing what to do or what suppose to be done (In this context, I am not talking about/trying to make fun of blind people).

I am a big believer of if I am about to be in a relationship with a man, I have to like that man, I have to at least have a physical attraction to him. Come on! You cannot say it is all about the heart and you do not care of what they look like physically. I am not talking about a certain race, body shape, face shape, etc, because beauty is in the eye of the beholder, right? I am talking about personal attraction (physically). Everyone has different taste when it comes to see other people's beauty. Personality is a huge part and a great heart is also a double plus points, but if you are not attracted to that person at all, then it is hard to build a relationship with him/her because someday, sooner or later, you will try to change them or wished they look like someone else or you will find someone else that will make you re-think your choice. 

A lot of people chose to be blind when it comes to loving someone, too blind that they let this other person treated them like crap, disrespectful and almost like a sad recycle garbage, excuse the comparison, I chose it wisely so that we understand that we are NOT a garbage. We are a human being who deserves better than a punching bag or visiting hours only when they want something from us and then throw it away after they get tired or bored with us. That is not healthy and NOT love either! Love should make your eyes open with gladness, your heart flourished with happiness and your brain smiles. Love does not make you forget who you are as a person, love does not create fear, love does not mean you lost yourself so that the other person would/might like you, love honors you, love respects you and love treats you as a human being with dignity and soul.

All I am saying is that to love someone, you must OPEN your eyes (heart and brain), so that you will be able to understand them as a person, to accept things about them, to learn about them, to love them regardless of their weaknesses and strength. THAT is why love is not blind, to see is to understand-accept-learn-love and be loved for who you are (or he/she is) as a person.

How do you know that someone loves you? through their words and actions. You need to SEE the facts and the proof that they love you. 

I stand with "Love is NOT blind" :)

xoxo,

Lindsay

Fortune Cookies

 HA!

Last night, after I ate my delicious Chinese Food for dinner, I decided to have two fortune cookies because they were so yummy! In my opinion, some fortune cookies are just better than others. Anyway, these are the result of my fortune cookies! The statements compliment each other and finished each other sentences LOL.

Sometimes it is nice to hear or read encouraging words from other people, may it be someone you know, a stranger or even some fortune cookies lol. This is why I love collecting words of wisdom, write it down on my journal or take picture of them as a reminder of what I could be if I am willing to do it. I also love to write them down to encourage myself and others. 

When something captured your eyes, your heart and soul, your brain tends to remember it and stored it for future references. That is why we need to stored wisdom and encouraging words into our brain so that we live by those words instead of negative, self pity, discourage words that will pull your spirit down along with the people that you meet in your life. You know, misery loves company kinda person, you don't wanna be that person. Nobody deserves to live a miserable lives and nobody have any right to bring other people down with them, dives into their unhappy life.

Say something nice to other people today, do something good for others, try to encourage other people without being fake. What do I mean by that? we do not have to compliment others and lie as well. Every person has their own uniqueness, whether they realize it or not. Bring that out of them, point it out to them so that they could see it as a gift, talent, useful and special instead of weirdness, bad and useless. 

Don't compliment others based on something that is not in them, for example do not encourage someone to pursue a singing career when everyone think they could not sing, including that person himself lol. Encourage them to pursue something that you know they could do and would be good at it plus it will satisfied them as well. Sometimes people just need a little push, a word of encouragement to step into their "dream comes true" world.

Go after your passion, your dreams, use your talents for something good and be happy with what you have accomplished now. Life is not over until we are dead, so as long as we are still breathing, we could still reach our goals! Good Luck and Best Wishes!

xoxo,

Lindsay

soMEbody loves you

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Nothing is better than to love and be loved by other people.

This is for all of you who read my blog. 

I hope that you all know that I love you and appreciate your time to read, comment,
pray and share my thoughts.

Have a great week and wonderful journey everyone!

Be Strong and Courageous,

Be Happy and Joyful,

Be Wise and Honorable.

Enjoy Life Without Losing Yourself In The Making!

xoxo,

Lindsay

Happiness Is A Journey

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Because we are living in the era of "Express", we wanted everything in our life to be express as well. We would love to have a date stamped on a specific event in our life, we wanted to control everything, including how fast a certain thing should be fulfilled.

Happiness is a journey!

I love those words! It does not mean that along the way you should be unhappy, miserable and cranky LOL. But, for some people, everything takes time to reached a certain degree of happiness. Forgiveness takes time, forgiveness is also a journey in life. 

There are steps that we must going through before we arrived at our "destination" or should I say degree of forgiveness. First, we must feel the hurt, then we got mad, confused, angry, sad and all of the emotions mixed together in our soul. Then we acted our emotions out, may it be crying, blaming someone (or yourself), regret, planning a revenge, hurting someone, being alone, partying, etc. After that, we have some options, we could either forgive the abuser and move on with our life or we could plan a revenge that might not just hurt him/her but yourself and others along the way. We could confront the person and tell them that we are hurt in a mature way or not so mature way, we could live miserable our whole life playing the blaming game, never ending regret or the "what if" mentality, or we could just cry, pick up our own life, move on toward a more positive renewed uplifting and better life. 

Everything takes time and that is why it calls a journey instead of a destination, because I think that life is a journey. We continue to walk and filled our life with surprises that we found along the way and we continue to walk our journey. We have options to stop and enjoy a certain moment in that journey, take some pictures, laughed or cried, remember or forget. We also have some options to unpacked some baggage that we have been carrying along the way (baggage: unnecessary burden). 

Aren't you tired carrying those emotional baggage that is hurting you, emotional, physical and mentally?. Why carrying those people who hurt you, abused you, did not appreciate you with you on your journey/life? Let them go, unpacked them, leave them behind and never look back. You have learned your lesson, now it is time to let go and live your lighter life. Filled your bag with new experiences, good people, moments and lessons to cherished and worth remembering or carrying along the way. Create beautiful moments not miserable moments. Remember the great times not the bad times. 

If you still find it hard to let go, then make a promise to yourself that you deserve better and make a goal to help yourself out to move on with your life, so that you could reached your next destination in your journey.

When or if you have arrived at your next destination, may it be the next city, next boyfriend you have, next job, next ministry, etc, unpacked those unnecessary baggage. You do know that those losers do not even think of you anymore, remember you or even know what they did wrong to you, right? So stop the pity party and expecting him/her to come to you and admitted that they were wrong and they were sorry. Some of them did regret and apologized but MANY of them did not even know what they did wrong. So, stop wasting your time analyzing why bad things happened to you and create your own happiness without destroying yourself and others. Happiness does not mean you could do whatever makes you happy, there are rules and limitation to everything on earth. Drinking, food, shopping and partying makes you happy, but if you do it way too much, you will ended up hurting yourself. 

Live in the present!

We could not change the past and we do not know what tomorrow holds, so why bother and worry way too much about it? We should just cherish the present moment, make it worth our time to remember, to smile when we think about it in the future. There are two things in the past, one that is worth to remember and one that is worth to forget. Only carrying/taking with you what is important and worthy of your soul and time, leave the emptiness, bitterness, sadness, unhealthy lifestyle and unhappiness behind so that they will not contaminated or dictate your future.

Remember that happiness is a journey which means every single step that you take should create happiness until the day God calls you home to His everlasting arms. We all going to die someday, the when-how and where is unknown, that is why we should just enjoy our life before it ends because life is short. 

The journey of happy life does not mean we are always happy, because there is nobody on this earth, past-present and future people, who will never experience fail-hurt-death-sickness-drama in life. Everyone has its turn to experienced pain and gain, because it is part of life and living with other people with different background and characters. 

Sometimes we must experience the bitterness to understand and appreciate the sweetness of life, that is of course if we are wise enough not to do the same mistake twice or picked up/chose the same people twice (could be different people with the same attitude/character than the first mistake we made).

Chose, create, live your happiness and enjoy your journey!

xoxo,

Lindsay

My Getaway

My Getaway..

Sometimes when I need to find peace,

I run into nature,

I hide on its beauty.

My Getaway..

Sometimes when life feels overwhelming,

I seek wisdom,

I listen to her.

My Getaway..

Sometimes when the uncertain scared me,

I surrender to the all powerful one,

I let my fear go.

My Getaway..

I found you everywhere,

I rest my case,

No more worry because life is beautiful,

 My Getaway..

The ONE who knows my secret,

my deepest fear,

my glorious moment,

my best and worst thoughts,

my insecurity,

my pain and my gain.

My Getaway,

I am saved with you,
perfectly covered with grace,
overwhelmed with love,
living with hope anchored on my soul.

My Perfect Getaway!

xoxo,

Lindsay

100 Miles

August is my birthday month,

I am going to give myself a birthday present by doing this "100 Miles Challenge."

A friend of mine did that on July and I am doing this on August.


First Day (7.10 Miles) yeah baby!!

Basically,

I will run, swim, bike, hike for a total of (at least) 100 Miles this month.

It is not too much if you start it now!

My fitness level has been up and down this year,

So I am determined to start living healthy again.

I just love the feeling of a healthy body,

the energy level, the good mood, the confidence, the toned muscle, the sharp mind, the strength, the joy of wearing skinny jeans ;)

I am not into "skinny to the bone"-unhealthy- body type,

I am into athletic healthy body!

We have one life, one body, one soul to take care of now,

So we better take very good care of it.

When it comes to working out,

Do what you love to do,

What works for you!

The first step is always the hardest,

Do one step at a time,

Once your body tastes the beauty of being healthy,

Your body will beg you for more challenge.

Educate yourself, 

ask your personal Doctor or

ask those who are experts in working out, 

hired a trainer if needed, 

enroll into a gym,

or use nature as a free and useful place, equipment and tools!

I like working out by myself,
(sometimes I run with my husband and my dog)
but I love support group to lift me up when I am lazy or lose focus.
Find your work out buddy (if you like to do it with others),
Build a support system/group that works for and with your lifestyle,
including telling your spouse to support you in this journey.

Nourish your body with good foods
(healthy food does not mean taste bad),

Give yourself a rest (and treats occasionally lol),

Enjoy life by doing things that you love,

Find a balance in life to fulfilled a better-healthier-happier-life.

Life is God's gift to me,

What I do with my life is my responsibility.

If you do not like what  you see or how it makes you feel,

Do something to change it,

Because excuses, complaining, pity party, blame game and comparing
will never do you any good or progress.


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~Together We Can Do It~

Go Lindsay Go!!

100 Miles start... TODAY

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True Happiness

"Because there is no true happiness apart from holiness, and there is no true holiness apart from knowing what it means to suffer unhappiness. And there is no knowing how to suffer unhappiness apart from God."

-Ann Voskamp-

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Have hope, stay strong and discover your true happiness in life.

We only have ONE life,

it is not worth to live our one life wasted, unhappy and lost.

Sadness is a part of life,

it does not have to be your everyday life.

Happiness, 

on the other hand,

 suppose to be a part of our everyday life.

ONE life to live,

ONE life to fulfilled,

ONE life to offer,

ONE life that could changed many lives!

When I feel like God is far away from me,

When I feel like I am lost,

When I feel like God is silent..too silent..,

Then I know I am way too far away from His path

and

I am suffering
..dying..

I am suffering when I live a life without God,

I am suffering when I live a lack of passionate life,

I am suffering when I lost compassion toward others,

I am suffering when I do things that brings me temporary happiness,

I am suffering when I stop praying, stop hoping, unfaithful

to the ONE and ONLY,

my creator,

my everything.

I once was lost, but now i'm found

I was blind, but now i see..

I see that I cannot live without Love, Hope and Faith,

I see that I am worthy,

I see that I found my true happiness in Him..

overflowing peace,

unspeakable joy,

contentment,

kindness and mercy

compassion..an everlasting compassion..

{inhale}

..hmmm..

 {exhale}

..life is good..

That is my true happiness 

I don't wanna live any other way.

:)

What is Your True Happiness?

xoxo,

Lindsay

I am content, therefore I am rich!

"He is rich who is content with the least; for contentment is the wealth of nature." 

-Socrates-

There are times in life when we do not appreciate what we have in the present moments because we want something more in life, which is not totally wrong, ambition is a good thing when it is balanced with wisdom. It becomes wrong when we want something more in life turned into ungratefulness, complaining and do nothing about it, comparing and blaming others for your own "I want what they have" moments.

If you spend a lot of time talking to old people, you will be amazed at how content their lives are all about by just having a new oxygen to breath, someone to call, meal on the table and newspaper. It is the simple thing in life that most of us forget most of the time, because we already have it, therefore those simple things in life lost their value. 

We get use to it and we thought it is no big deal, everyone has it, right? WRONG!

Water..we live in a country where you could drink water directly from the sink faucet, in some countries you must boiled the water first then wait for it to cool down then you could drink it. In some countries, you must walk for miles just to get water, unhealthy dirty water, and when you found it for maybe a bucket, you must walk back to your house for miles, then boiled them, then wait to drink the water that is not even clean after you boiled them. You could still taste the dirt in your mouth! 

We have water in a very easy and comfortable way right in front of our eyes. Not everyone has it the way we have our water.

Water is just an example, simple yet we need them so badly in our lives because we could survive without food but not without water.

My point is we take everyday things that we have for granted because we think that is not important, everyone has it anyway. But it is the most important thing in life that we have, we forget the value and nope.. not everyone has it in life.

These days everything seems so fast and advanced. Technology, beauty industry, social media, etc, that makes us want more in life. Things that we do not necessary need in life yet it becomes our standard of happiness, value, social life, beauty, satisfaction, rich or poor, etc.

You will be fine without your phone, but you will die without water!

Learn from an animal, who is content and praising God when they have food to eat, water to drink, place to sleep or hang out (may it be a filthy ground, a cave, a tree).
My dog is at his happiest moment when he sees me come home from work, everyday! His joy never drained..always so excited and thankful to see me home, appreciates me to the max and do all of his tricks just to make me happy. 

Are you that happy when your mom and dad comes home from a hard day at work? Did you hug them or tell them you appreciate their hard work for you?
When was the last time you appreciate your spouse or children or food/water on your table or jobs or kind neighbor?

Little things in life that we have, we forget the value, yet it is important!

You never know until you lost them! 

A week ago, AT&T U-Verse was having problems in my area and they never have any problem until that day. My Internet, TV and phone were down. I had never feel so sad in my life hahhha..you never know how much you depended your happiness on technology until that kind of things happened. It was only for 24 hours, but oh my gosh..I was on my ninja mode. I tried to be Mac Gyver to Steve Jobs all at once, I tried to fixed the internet, phone and TV. When every attempt does not work, I called the company and they told me that the problem was with their company and they are trying to fixed it.

It was the longest 24 hours of my life and the worst part is my husband is out of town and I could not reach him due to his job in the military. 

The next morning I woke up and see my TV, Internet and phone working again was like experiencing miracles in life. You should have seen my face and the words of thankfulness flowing out of my mouth LOL. OK, I exaggerate a little but the point is I was very happy!

It goes the same thing with people, you never know until you lose them to death or occasion in life. 

Enjoy what you have now in life, be thankful and proud of yourself for having those things and people in your life. Not everyone has it the way we do, so complaining and comparing, especially do nothing in between, is not good for your own sanity :)

There will always be someone prettier, richer, smarter, better than you. But, God did not create you to be him or her. You are created to be yourself with purposes that made specifically for you. You might not have it now, but you do not know what the future holds for you. 

There are things/people that you might never have, so why not enjoy with what you actually have and could have in life. 

I always value and respect those who earn what they have by working with their own hands. I love diligent people, I hate lazy people. Live a life that is worth living for with a grateful heart. It is easier to say it than to actually living it, especially when you know people who get it very easy in life and you have to work so hard to get certain things in life. But, hating those who has it the "easy" way will only make your life harder and who needs that in life, right?

We might as well enjoy what we have, who knows what tomorrow holds for us?

:)

I am content, therefore I am rich.

Things will never satisfy your needs, your heart's gratitude toward those things that will satisfy you. If you are greedy or never feel content, then you have a miserable life. You cannot keep up with everything, you cannot have everything, so don't beat yourself up!

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xoxo,

Lindsay

Single or Taken?

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Ouch!! 

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A dear friend of mine posted this image on her Facebook's page a while ago and I found it very true, funny and sad at the same time!

When we were little, girls loves to fantasize of her prince charming, the knight in shinning armor who would do anything for her, loves her and treat her like a princess everyday.

If you grew up with a father whom you considered as your "hero", then there is a huge possibility that you will find a man who reflected your father. Not in a gross way, come on!! LOL!!

I meant a man who in so many ways reminds you of your father as far as his character, his hard work, his dedication and how he treated you as a human being.

If you grew up with a father who failed to do his job as a father, then there is a possibility that you ended up confused with men. You have no idea of what a great man is all about or how they should treat you and what is the man's position/roles in a marriage, because you never had one good male figure in your life.

On the other hand, even if you grew up with a bad father, it actually makes you very picky to chose your soul mate, because you do not want your life to ended up like your mother and you do not want you future kids to suffer what you went through as a child (to present time - yes parents, you left scars on your children's lives, it affected us in so many ways).

At the end of the day, we met some men, 

some of them are great, 

some of them are jerk, 

and WE ended up picked ONE that we thought qualified as our "Prince Charming".

Fast forward...

Once you entered a life called "marriage", your world changes!

Things that we did not see when we were dating is starting to appeared, 

things that we hate and love as well.

There are people who are really good at hiding the "true color" of their soul.

Some learned to be better and actually trying to be the best,

Others are too selfish to let go of their bad side.

Many became a bad (or good) one because something happened in their lives that changed their good behavior to be bad and their bad behavior to be good.

If your marriage is taking a down stroll, then you are one of the "Taken and not in love"s group?

Well, I think that there are some steps before we got into that phase in a relationship:

1. Love - Married/Dating - Lost the love

2. Not in love - Married/Dating - Fall in love

 3. Not in love - Married/Dating - Still not in love

4. Love - Married/Dating - Still in love

LOL, right?

So, which one are you at this point? Ideally, people would love to be number four, because it is the perfect kind of relationship, but sadly, not all of us could experience it. 

"Marriage doesn't create problems. It reveals them. You bring unresolved stuff into it."

Rick Warren 

Now, let's move on to the single ladies/men,

woot woot!!

I found it very true when people say they are single and happy, 

if that is really their honest feeling, 

because it is simply mean they are not ready to get involved in any relationship.

It is better to admit it, instead of rushing into any relationship based on a moment of passionate sex or a pressure from everyone else who wanted you to be in a relationship, when you, yourself, are not ready.

"You can't hurry love, right?"

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Now, for those who are single and ready to be in a relationship but has not meet up with the right man/woman yet,

are you still single and happy or single and miserable?

This is for you to answer yourself.

But hey..,

I would rather wait for the right one, enjoy my single life without any drama and do things that will benefits myself in the future instead of rushing into a relationship, get all the drama that you don't need and then your life becomes worst than "The Real Housewives of Hell".

It's harder to fix the broken heart and clean up the mess it created than to be in a relationship with someone. I would rather check the "single" box in my Facebook account than to check the "Its complicated" one..

whew!! 

I just can't deal with anything that is complicated.

Even though, I can't speak up for any relationship that is complicated because when it comes to love, you get mixed feelings, emotions, logical thinking, and "sacred" moments.

Its harder to let go when you are in a relationship,

there is an emotional connection that is hard to break.

But, in a very bad situation,
always remember to save yourself
so you can save others!

What do I love the most of being married to my husband?

COMPANIONSHIP

and that is my final and honest answer!

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Singles and Doubles,

Taken or not,

In or out of love,

have a great Friday

T.G.I.F

;)

xoxo,

Lindsay

This Is Your Life

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Easier said than done huh? 

But, it does not mean impossible.

Never say never, right?

;)

Have a great night everyone

xoxo,

Lindsay

I have a confession

I have a confession to make, I have NOT been running for almost two months! GASP! Due to my busy days, lazy days and back pain, I have not been working out for that long. See, running is my confidence, it is my happy time when I could just disappear and get lost in my own mind. When I run, I found myself all over again. I feel good about myself, my body gets stronger, it does not crave junk food and it boost my energy level (also my self confident). Working out is dope!

When I am in my lazy-injured-busy mode, I am unhappy. It actually led me to depression! I could not think clear, I craved junk food..constantly and my energy level dropped! I am officially tired at ALL times. Pretty crazy huh? that is what working out could do to your body, both mentally and physically. It affects your life more than you could imagine.

Today, I am proud to say that I am on my feet again, RUNNING and already happy about myself again!

Just a little tips to make you wanting to get back on doing what you LOVE to do, but have not been doing it due to some down days, time or you've lost that loving feeling moment ;)

1. When you feel down, unhealthy, unhappy and it disabled your ability to face everyday life, then there is something missing in your life. Something that isimportant, something that you must do in order to find yourself again. In my case, running and praying time :)

2. Once you found out what you really want to do in your life, then you should do it right away before it becomes one of those "unfinished business" again. Crossed it out of your to-do list. It will make you happier, feel the accomplishment/victorious moment and something to make you proud and happy.

3. Get something to make it happen. Something that you might need to buy, change, mix up or add to pumped you up doing your "thing" again (whatever your "thing" might be for you). Something to motivate yourself again, maybe set a new goal or visualized yourself doing it and reach your goal!

For me, this is what I get :
- Well, this is not what I actually get myself, but I got it on Christmas. My husband bought me this really awesome lululemon hoodies. Girls, this workout outfits is dope! Every girl should have at least one cute workout outfits.

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- I bought and mix a new playlist for my iPhone. In my playlist, you will find mostly hip hop, rap, and rock. That pumped me up!

4. Motivate yourself and find time to do it. ALWAYS prioritize what you need in life. If you neglect yourself, nobody will be able to save you, unless you want to be saved. It is always start with an "I" then the rest will do their own things.

I should obey, 

I should learn, 

I should change, 

I should share, 

I should do something, 

I should not blame others!

xoxo,

Lindsay

Happiness is when my heart is smiling

I have been thinking about it lately, what is it that makes you happy in life? Is it your family, friends, faith, fame, success, beauty, money, hobby?!?!

There are tons of list qualified as happiness. But how often is it in your life that you started to think that “This is not enough to make me happy?” or “I am not happy” or “I have everything but I am not happy?”

There are some people who have everything, from loving family to success and money is not a problem but she still say “I am not happy”. Another example is a wonderful man with a great family, faith and success in life, married to the best woman, but still say “I am not happy?"

There are the average people who don’t have enough money, living from paycheck to paycheck with hard working jobs, extra hours of works, no family, no friends and still say “I am happy?"

What I meant is what makes one person happy? Is it a thing, a person, a circumstances or is happiness just a word of certain occasion?. Is happiness a decision of heart? Is it a choice that we need to take in order to feel it, to satisfy, to understand the word happiness itself?

Money cant buy love, true, but I am happy when I can buy stuff I love LOL. Money cant but love but money can move people to love something or someone. Money cant buy happiness but money does make you happy in certain ways in life.

Happiness is a word and you need to chose to either be happy or not, its as simple as that. But does the real happiness exist in life or is it just occasionally appear?

Is it really forever kinda thing or is it just temporary?

Does happiness cant be found in a person, thing, money or hobby?

Does happiness means everywhere and in everything, but we are too blind or too numb to even think of the word HAPPINESS? or Too tired to even try to be happy?!

So many times I chose to be happy but the fact is I am not happy. But for how long can we survive to make the same decision?. Sooner or later we will realize what happiness is all about. Sometimes we are too afraid to admit that we are not happy, because we are afraid of the thought or the fact that we might losing someone or something important in life. For example, how many women who are in an abusive relationship and still say “I am happy as long as he is with me?” or how many people who are sick of their job and still say “I am happy as long as I get a job?”

Those are not happiness, those are the status of desperation and denial and use the mask of happiness. But then again, who am I to say so? They might FEEL happy and I just have a different dictionary of happiness :)

For me..happiness is when I am surrounded by people I love without having to worry about tomorrow. A situation when my heart is smiling and my face is rejoicing.

Happiness is when my heart is smiling! 

Yap!! I just found my definition of happiness. Just now and from now on, its my trademark “happiness is when my heart is smiling!"

xoxo,

Lindsay