I was watching Sex & The City 2 and there was a moment there that caught my attention. It was when Carrie kissed Aidan!
In the movie, it was described that Carrie was confused about her own marriage and she thought something is not right in her marriage. At least, that is the impression I got when I watched it. OK, back to the "kissing" moment.
See, that kiss was not even meant anything to her, but she felt really bad afterward, guilty! Before she went out to have dinner with Aidan, Charlotte told her that she was playing with fire to go out with Aidan. But, at that moment, Carrie did not seem to care. I meant, she knew what she was dealing with. She will be having dinner with someone that she used to date and that someone was crazy about her, that he even proposed to her.
What went wrong? Confuse mind leads to uncertainty about anything, even the best thing in life. She thought that something is not right in her marriage, but in fact, that is just marriage for 2 years in general. I, personally, was as lost as Carrie when I was in my early years of marriage. Not to mention, many people get divorce under eight years of marriage in the US.
Why? because when two people get together in the same house, having to share their lives together, and especially when they have children right away before they even know each other that well..it is hard! There are a lot of differences that just showed up after we got married.
There are a lot of sacrifices that needed to be done, things that you use to enjoy when you were SINGLE! Just like Carrie :)
Carrie and Aidan met at the "perfect" time for a disaster to happen. See, they used to love each other in their past life (past: young and did not married yet)! Aidan is married, had 3 kids. Carrie is married with no kids.
Aidan find a "break" without the kids and of all the women in the world, he met Carrie. The woman who use to owned his heart, dumped him after he proposed. There was a "hanging" unfinished story in there. You know, the "what if" factor?! Meeting Aidan for Carrie was like the old good time. This is the man who worshiped her, while she thinks her husband does not (based on their lack of communication, and because he wanted to watch TV..or two days off without Carrie).
Carrie knew exactly what she was doing when she put those eyeliner and hot dress on. She is going to see Aidan and showed him that she is still hot and sometimes it is nice to know that someone is actually care for you.
When our spouse do not show interest in us anymore, we are craving for those praises or flirting moments. We will try to get it, no matter what on stake. Its the spur of the moment that could lead us to a disaster. But, in that "moment", the temptation seems like a good deal.
The funny part is that Big loves Carrie. She just does not expect that marriage will be that "boring." See, when we were dating, we would try to do "fun" things to impressed and to spend as much time with our spouse. But when we get married, we spend ALL the time in the world with that one person. What used to be fun becomes regular and at the end..boring..the same old routine. Sometimes, just laying on bed with each other is the best thing. Watching TV is the new addiction. Running together or even just grabbing a coffee becomes our "date" nights.
After the kiss, second after that moment. Carrie realized she made a huge mistake, she felt sick and ran away. Good for her! See, that ONE moment can lead to ONE big mistake that could lead to ONE disaster. I am not just talking about Carrie. I am talking about all of us, who has our own "moment" of playing with fire. We knew what we want, we knew where it will lead us, we know the cost..yet we are still going for that path.
Its a good thing that Big doesn't make a big deal of that kiss. In fact, it ended with happy ending for Carrie and Big. But, some of us are not that lucky. That one night stand leads you to divorce. That one hot night that leads you to get pregnant before you were ready. That one joke leads you to get punched on the face. That one signature leads you to jail. That one kiss leads you to another temptation.
Remember, sometimes regret means just lesson to learn. But, sometimes regret does exist when it doesn't just you who get affected. When your high school's sweetheart dumped you and you said "No regrets just lesson to learn." Well then OK!! But, when you get drunk, drive and killed someone else and you said "just lesson to learn"..wow..something is not clicked in your brain. Yes we have to forgive ourselves and move on is the healthy way. But, regret is needed to prevent another fatal mistake.
See, regret is a feeling that we all should have so that we will NEVER repeat the same mistake. Lesson is a part of the regret, but regret is an unbearable guilt that makes you do not wanna do it or even get near to it ever again. Lesson to learn is a must, but when you do something really bad that caused others to suffer, you need to regret it in order to prevent the next one.
Before we make any decision in life about anything. Think of that ONE moment. Will this action leads me to victory or death?! Some mistake cannot be forgiven nor forgotten for some people. You do not wanna jeopardized your love and life for ONE temporary, rush, confuse moment. What happen in Vegas does not always stay in Vegas..whatever, whoever, wherever your "VEGAS" is all about!
In the movie, it was described that Carrie was confused about her own marriage and she thought something is not right in her marriage. At least, that is the impression I got when I watched it. OK, back to the "kissing" moment.
See, that kiss was not even meant anything to her, but she felt really bad afterward, guilty! Before she went out to have dinner with Aidan, Charlotte told her that she was playing with fire to go out with Aidan. But, at that moment, Carrie did not seem to care. I meant, she knew what she was dealing with. She will be having dinner with someone that she used to date and that someone was crazy about her, that he even proposed to her.
What went wrong? Confuse mind leads to uncertainty about anything, even the best thing in life. She thought that something is not right in her marriage, but in fact, that is just marriage for 2 years in general. I, personally, was as lost as Carrie when I was in my early years of marriage. Not to mention, many people get divorce under eight years of marriage in the US.
Why? because when two people get together in the same house, having to share their lives together, and especially when they have children right away before they even know each other that well..it is hard! There are a lot of differences that just showed up after we got married.
There are a lot of sacrifices that needed to be done, things that you use to enjoy when you were SINGLE! Just like Carrie :)
Carrie and Aidan met at the "perfect" time for a disaster to happen. See, they used to love each other in their past life (past: young and did not married yet)! Aidan is married, had 3 kids. Carrie is married with no kids.
Aidan find a "break" without the kids and of all the women in the world, he met Carrie. The woman who use to owned his heart, dumped him after he proposed. There was a "hanging" unfinished story in there. You know, the "what if" factor?! Meeting Aidan for Carrie was like the old good time. This is the man who worshiped her, while she thinks her husband does not (based on their lack of communication, and because he wanted to watch TV..or two days off without Carrie).
Carrie knew exactly what she was doing when she put those eyeliner and hot dress on. She is going to see Aidan and showed him that she is still hot and sometimes it is nice to know that someone is actually care for you.
When our spouse do not show interest in us anymore, we are craving for those praises or flirting moments. We will try to get it, no matter what on stake. Its the spur of the moment that could lead us to a disaster. But, in that "moment", the temptation seems like a good deal.
The funny part is that Big loves Carrie. She just does not expect that marriage will be that "boring." See, when we were dating, we would try to do "fun" things to impressed and to spend as much time with our spouse. But when we get married, we spend ALL the time in the world with that one person. What used to be fun becomes regular and at the end..boring..the same old routine. Sometimes, just laying on bed with each other is the best thing. Watching TV is the new addiction. Running together or even just grabbing a coffee becomes our "date" nights.
After the kiss, second after that moment. Carrie realized she made a huge mistake, she felt sick and ran away. Good for her! See, that ONE moment can lead to ONE big mistake that could lead to ONE disaster. I am not just talking about Carrie. I am talking about all of us, who has our own "moment" of playing with fire. We knew what we want, we knew where it will lead us, we know the cost..yet we are still going for that path.
Its a good thing that Big doesn't make a big deal of that kiss. In fact, it ended with happy ending for Carrie and Big. But, some of us are not that lucky. That one night stand leads you to divorce. That one hot night that leads you to get pregnant before you were ready. That one joke leads you to get punched on the face. That one signature leads you to jail. That one kiss leads you to another temptation.
Don't let that one confuse, doubtful moment that has no ground, fact and sanity leads you to do stupid things.
Remember, sometimes regret means just lesson to learn. But, sometimes regret does exist when it doesn't just you who get affected. When your high school's sweetheart dumped you and you said "No regrets just lesson to learn." Well then OK!! But, when you get drunk, drive and killed someone else and you said "just lesson to learn"..wow..something is not clicked in your brain. Yes we have to forgive ourselves and move on is the healthy way. But, regret is needed to prevent another fatal mistake.
See, regret is a feeling that we all should have so that we will NEVER repeat the same mistake. Lesson is a part of the regret, but regret is an unbearable guilt that makes you do not wanna do it or even get near to it ever again. Lesson to learn is a must, but when you do something really bad that caused others to suffer, you need to regret it in order to prevent the next one.
Before we make any decision in life about anything. Think of that ONE moment. Will this action leads me to victory or death?! Some mistake cannot be forgiven nor forgotten for some people. You do not wanna jeopardized your love and life for ONE temporary, rush, confuse moment. What happen in Vegas does not always stay in Vegas..whatever, whoever, wherever your "VEGAS" is all about!
xoxo
Lindsay
