Fake Forgiveness

Fake Forgiveness!

HA! A friend of mine told me a very wise statement, "Truth that hurts is better than a fake honesty," I totally agree with her on that one. I mean, don't you wanna know the truth? ..I do.., even though there are many times that I've wished the answers would have been different or the answers would have made me smile instead of mad or crying.

Many times, we allowed ourselves to enjoy the moment of "fake honesty". We knew they lied but we go along with it because it makes us feel better about ourselves, our situation, our relationship. We ignore the importance of "truth" for the sake of "drama-free" zone. But, do you really wanna enjoy the things that are not suppose to be enjoyable? Do you really wanna lie to yourself?

Social Media, such as Facebook and Twitter, are a very great place to stay in touch with other people and also a very dangerous place as well. People are at war with each other based on status updates, pictures war and relationship statuses, *Laughing Out Loud*, you laughed because you know it is true! 

I deleted a lot of people because it was just way too much drama. I am on Facebook because most of my families and friends are in the other part of the world and Facebook makes it easier to communicate or shared my pictures (instead of sending the pictures via emails to hundreds of them). But, some people are just way to sensitive and take it too seriously. The funny thing is that many of them are being too coward to confront people when they see them, but "very brave" updating their statuses to explain what  they are feeling about them. Why can't you just go to these people or email them privately or call them and tell them the problem instead of pouring your soul out on Facebook? It is ridiculous to read how people are attacking each other on their statuses. The anger, the jealousy, the fake "like" and the competition to proved that you are better than them. Facebook is good for staying in touch with people you know, not a war zone. Facebook is a good place to encourage each other with your words, to entertained each others with your silly pictures or beautiful view from your vacations, not to showing off that you are richer or better than others. I guess it is all coming back to yourself, how you see things and how you take it. Some take it the wrong way and others just have fun with it. 

People also forgot that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, whether we like it, agree with it or not. Social media has lost its purpose and gained popularity for other purposes, such as "being fake" (from fake happiness, social status, pictures, feelings, etc).

Let's go back to fake forgiveness!

Many times when people said, "I forgive you!", they are still mad at the person, but they do it anyway so it will not burdened them. Many times people also said those words not because they really forgive that person, but they said that to make them feel better about themselves. I mean, yes forgiveness will make you free, but if you don't really forgive them, it does not give you freedom, it gives you another burden because you lied to covered your true feeling. It is better to admit that you could not forgive (yet) than to say I forgive but actually I don't. 

I am a believer in forgiveness as a way to make peace with yourself, but it does not mean faking it. I hate when people say they forgave but they said that because they wanted other people to see them as the nice, noble and better person. Yes, you are not the one who did the bad things on the first place, but to lie to other people, does not make you a better person either. You could lie to people, but you could not lie to God and yourself. If you really wanna be free, you should really forgives. If you still need time, it is better to admit it than to lie.

A friend of mine called me a couple of months ago, admitting that she used my name to win an argument with her friend. I found it very disturbing for a big girl to use me as an example to someone that I do not even know exists. She admitted that she had to lie to win the stupid argument and that she was sorry. I was offended! I mean, if you wanted  to use my name, at least have a dignity to use it for the right reason, truthfully. But, she did that because she could not be herself, she had to use someone else's life to cover for her own insecurity. Faking and lying about anything does not make you a better person, no matter what the reasons or excuses behind it. The worst part is I know when she told me the story, she did not really regret it. She was not sorry that she used my name, she called me because she was scared that her friend would ask me personally and therefore her name will came up as the  "story teller" , LOL, sad, isn't it? but it is also very true that we tend to do something "nice" because we are trying to save our own face. 

Admitting that you are sorry or that you forgave, even though you did not mean it, but you said it anyway to make you feel better about yourself or so that other people will see you as a good, noble and better person, is a wrong reason. 

If you wanna do something nice and noble, do it for the right reason. The right reason for this issue would be "To Forgive" or to say "I Am Sorry" and really mean it.

You could run but your could not hide (from God, your past, and yourself).

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xoxo,

Lindsay

Hachiko

I only write things that matters to me, inspires me, motivates me and memorable as well. Those who knows me also know my love for animal, especially dogs. 

Last night I watched the movie "Hachi: A Dog's Tale" and it makes me cry like I just lost a best friend. I knew about the movie for a long time because I knew the story behind it, but I try to avoid watching it because I know I would cry, LOL!

I am such a cry baby when it comes to dogs and their loyalty, even though I am not a crying type. This story touched my heart because it shows me that a dog has the biggest heart when it comes to love their human. They are loyal, protective, playful and the amount of love they have for us is unlimited. 

Human tend to say something to us and think something else about us on their heart/mind. But, dogs will show us as it is. They don't like you, they will show it. They like you, they will show it as well. They also know if you are a bad person or a good one, they could feel your inner human LOL. They are an honest and bright creature. They would still love us, regardless of who and what we are as a human being.

The story of Hachiko is an amazing story. But you know what? every dog has an amazing story and a spot of loyalty in them, you just need to figure it out. 

My dog, Luke, for example, would wait in front of the door every single day when my husband is away on his military duty. When he goes to the office, Luke does not wait in front of the door like that, he only wait when my husband is out of town (he knows lol). When we go on vacations, our dog's sitters would tell us that Luke waited in front of their doors for us to come back and avoid eating for at least two days. Luke will wait for our return every day and night on the front door. That's the kind of loyalty Luke shows to our family ever since we adopted him from Petco. 

My old family dog, Bruno, was stolen, on three days the dog came back still with the chain on his neck. He was fighting for his life and he came back to his family's home. I will never forget that day!

My other dog (I have TONS of dogs lol), Benji , is a super mellow and smart dog. One day my uncle borrowed him and took him to his house and the next day Benji was gone. The poor old dog came back to us because he did not know that my uncle was just borrowing him for a week. He came back, all the way from my uncle's house to our house, which is very far to walk.

I have a lot of stories about loyalty of my own dogs, because I have owned so many dogs and cats as well. Google some more stories about "Loyal Dogs" and you will be surprised to see the remarkable stories of their loyalty, dedication and love for their human.

Please adopt a dog today, save their lives before they are put to death and lost their purposes on earth. There are a lot of dogs who get saved from the street, shelter, adoption agencies and these dogs turned into heroes. One of them is Gabe (remember my post about him on here?), speaking of Gabe, please vote for him again until October, click here to vote. 

There are a lot of dogs who saved their owners from death, bombs, accident, snake bites, fire, sickness,  loneliness, depression, even suicide by just being a good companion. There are a lot of working dogs (military, police, service, therapy dogs) who are working their tails off just to save our lives when we go to a movie theater, ball games, airport, school, office, supermarket, and the list goes on.

If you are thinking of giving up your dog, please think again. Even if you must do so, please give your dog to a dog lover people, not a killing shelter. They did not do anything to deserve this. You might not like them or could not train them, but there are other people who will love them and train these dogs.

Meet Hachiko

(November 10, 1923 – March 8, 1935)

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Hachiko was an Akita dog born on a farm near the city of Ōdate, Akita Prefecture. 

In 1924, Hidesaburō Ueno, a professor in the agriculture department at the University of Tokyo, took in Hachikō, a golden brown Akita, as a pet. 

During his owner's life, Hachikō greeted him at the end of each day at the nearby Shibuya Station. The pair continued their daily routine until May 1925, when Professor Ueno did not return. The professor had suffered from a cerebral hemorrhage and died, never returning to the train station where Hachikō was waiting. Every day for the next nine years the dog waited at Shibuya station.

Hachikō attracted the attention of other commuters. Many of the people who frequented the Shibuya train station had seen Hachikō and Professor Ueno together each day. Initial reactions from the people, especially from those working at the station, were not necessarily friendly. However, after the first appearance of the article about him on October 4, 1932 in Asahi Shimbun, people started to bring Hachikō treats and food to nourish him during his wait. This continued for nine years with Hachikō appearing precisely when the train was due at the station.

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Hachikō died on March 8, 1935, and was found on a street in Shibuya. In March 2011 scientists settled the cause of death of Hachikō: the dog had terminal cancer and a filaria infection (worms). There were also four yakitori skewers in Hachikō's stomach, but the skewers did not damage his stomach or cause his death. 

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Hachiko's bronze statue.

Hachiko is remembered for his remarkable loyalty to his owner, even many years after his owner's death. 

(Source/More of Hachiko's stories are in his Wikipedia)

"True Friendship isn't being inseparable, it's being separated and nothing changes"

-unknown-

Hug a dog today, make sure they know you will always be there for them because they already swear to God that they will always be there for you through thick and thin, life and death.

xoxo,

Lindsay

Immortal Beloved

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Immortal Beloved

by

 Ludwig van Beethoven

Forever,

Lindsay

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Friendship

A FRIEND IS...

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Someone who hugs me

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Someone who likes me, even taking pictures with me and makes us look gooooddddd

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Someone who tells me if/when I am good or bad

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Someone who does not mind our differences

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Someone who listens and share their wisdom

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Someone who shows me affection regardless of where we..stand..(live)

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Someone who chills with me and killing time together

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Someone who shares their strengths and weaknesses' moments with me

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Someone who literally Rolling On The Floor Laughing with me

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Someone who shares their belonging with me

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Someone who could be my "Partner In Crime" ..in a very stylish & fun way

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Someone who prays with/for me

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Someone who will do anything with me

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Someone who will do anything for me

(Hubby and Luke)
Someone who makes me happy and enjoys my presence

(Luke)

Someone who does silly things with me.

(My hubby and Luke)

Someone who will carry me and loves me to the end of my time

"A friend in need is a friend indeed"

xoxo,

Lindsay

KOKO, the Gorilla

Have you heard of Koko, the gorilla? I was browsing some videos in YouTube and found some videos of Koko. She is a genius gorilla, so cute and a fast learner. I also admire the people who taught her everything she know with dedication, passion, patient and love. I do not believe in evolution, but I do believe in God who created everything beautiful. Koko is one of His masterpiece and human has the ability to teach animals and to care for them.

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"A righteous man cares for the needs of his animal, but the kindest acts of the wicked are cruel."

Proverbs 12:10

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"Koko (born July 4, 1971) is a female gorilla who, according to Francine "Penny" Patterson, is able to understand more than 1,000 signs based on American Sign Language,and understand approximately 2,000 words of spoken English.

As with other ape language experiments, the degree to which Koko masters these signs has been controversial, as has been the degree to which such mastery demonstrates language abilities.

Koko was born at San Francisco Zoo and has lived most of her life in Woodside, California, although a move to a sanctuary on Maui, Hawaii, has been planned since the 1990s. Koko is short for the name Hanabiko (花火子 lit. "fireworks child"^?)in Japanese, a reference to her date of birth, the Fourth of July.

Although not unique, Koko is one of the few non-humans known to keep pets. She has cared for several cats over the years and Koko's relationship with All Ball was featured in the 1987 book Koko's Kitten (Scholastic Press, ISBN 0-590-44425-5), which was written by Patterson. In the book, Patterson reported that in the summer of 1984 Koko asked her for a cat. Koko selected a gray male Manx from a litter of abandoned kittens and named him "All Ball". This breed is unusual in that it has no tail. Patterson wondered whether that influenced Koko's choice. Patterson wrote that Koko cared for the kitten as if it were a baby gorilla.

In December of that same year, All Ball escaped from Koko's cage and was hit and killed by a car. Later, Patterson said that when she signed to Koko that All Ball had gone, Koko signed "Bad, sad, bad" and "Frown, cry, frown, sad". Patterson also reported later hearing Koko making a sound similar to human weeping. Drawing upon this incident, Patterson argues that non-human species can have human-like emotions.

In 1985, Koko was allowed to pick out two new kittens from a litter to be her companions. The animals she chose, later named "Lipstick" and "Smokey", were also Manxes like All Ball.

Though he was not a pet of Koko's in the same way her cats were, the Gorilla Foundation also briefly played home to a male green-winged macaw of mysterious origin who had been found inhabiting the grounds and feeding on the loquat trees. Initially frightened of the parrot, Koko named him "Devil Tooth", "devil" presumably coming from his being mostly red, and "tooth" for his fierce-looking white beak; the human staff adjusted the name to "Devil Beak", and ultimately to "DB". (Personal communication)" 

(Source: Wikipedia)

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Have you seen the movie, "Rise of the planet of the Apes?", I thought only in a movie that an ape could learn the sign language and all, but Koko proved me wrong. I think Koko inspired that movie because its location is in San Francisco and Koko was born in San Francisco Zoo LOL.

Speaking of San Francisco Zoo, I visited the San Francisco's Zoo last Sunday and I was actually disappointed. The Zoo is big and clean, but there were not a lot of animals to see, most of the big cats were hiding and those animals looked lonely and sad.

Yours Truly in SF Zoo lol

Anyway, please Google about Koko and you will be amazed of this beautiful creature. These are some of her videos that I love but she has a lot more videos in YouTube, please check her out and help spreading the word of how to teach and love the animals. They deserved our help, care and love! 

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P.S  6:27, I do not believe in Evolution, just to be clear lol, I do believe in God's creation :)

♥♥Save the gorillas ♥♥

http://www.koko.org/index.php

xoxo,

Lindsay

Love Those Who Hates You!

LOVE is a powerful word yet it has been used way too many times, too often and too easy that made people confused the very meaning of love itself. It is overused that people almost get lost of what love really means.

Love is love, people said, and yet they hate the people who against their opinion or view of what they think define the word "love". Love is not love when it hurts other people involved in it. Love is not love when it means you violate other people's life. Love is not love when you are taking advantage of other people. Love is not love when you wanted to marry a person who already has a spouse, even though the feeling is mutual, it is still wrong, and love is pure. Love is not love when all you think about is to satisfy yourself, and the list continues on. Love does not mean I have to agree with you all the time. A parent who thinks love means give everything and anything to their children so that they will be happy, even though they know there are things that are not good for their children, do not love their children.

LOVE is a feeling, love is a commandment, love is a relationship, love is a blessing, love is a gift, love also means to hug your enemy with a never ending compassion that beats in your heart, for as long as you live.

The question is HOW?

How do we love those who hates us? How do you even like to be in the same room with those who clearly cannot stand you and vice versa? How do you love those who hates you because you are different than them? How do you love those who make fun of you because of your appearance? How do you love those who disagree with you? How do you love those who hates you?

"For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have?" (Matthew 5:46a)

It is harder to love those who hates you than to love those who already love you in the first place. 

The key to love those who hates, dislike or cannot stand you is to have a better understanding of who they are as a human being. Get to know a person, their upbringing, their ups and downs in life. A person becomes who they are today because of how their past treated them. Build a friendship instead of a wall.

What makes us, human, unique is that we have our differences and that leads to a lot of opinions, views and principles in life. We value different things, we love and hate certain things, we like and dislike some things. But, in every differences we have, we must have at least one thing that we like or love in common. Instead of keep fighting and arguing on the things that makes us hates each other, why don't we talk or embrace the things that we both like? One thing that we both enjoy would make a better life than fighting over one thing that we hate. Pastor Miles McPherson of the Rock Church in San Diego talked about it on Sunday and it is powerful!

I realize that in this life, we will meet a lot of people with a lot of background, upbringing, religion, belief, faith, preference and the list goes on. We can not control everything in this world, we can not always win every conversation, we can not push our belief to others, we can not agree with everything because there are things that we think is the truth, right or wrong, and others will think the opposite. You know what the good news is all about in this issue? We do NOT have to agree with everyone and everything to love someone. 

The problem with society these days, is that some people think that when someone disagree with them, it is simply mean "hater". Just like love is being overused, so is the word hate. Disagree simply means you have your opinion and I have mine, with our own reasons. Does it mean I hate you? nope! It means I have different opinion than yours. Some like their tea with honey, some like it with sugar and some just want it plain. Some like it hot, some like cold. Some wants some lemon, some wants none. When people disagree with you, it is good to listen to their reasons, facts and the why factors behind it, instead of closing your ears and eyes, yet you open your mouth with the word "HATE".

"Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you; reprove a wise man, and he will love you. Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser; teach a righteous man, and he will increase in learning." (Proverbs 9:8-9)

Stop Judging Others!

So, does it mean we must be free to do everything we want? No, everything has its limit and boundary. Without limits, you will put yourself and others into confusion and danger. That is why we still have rules, law and legal system :)

Does it mean we can not remind someone that they take a wrong way? It is always how you say it that make people accept your opinion or hates you. If you know someone you love do something illegal and they could go to jail because of it, would you rather see them go to jail because you are afraid they will tell you the "Don't judge me" card?. 

Be wise to pick a conversation, put love above all things. You tell them because you love them, not because you are trying to judge them or because you think you are better than them. There is no one on this earth that is blameless and sinless, but it does not mean we can not remind each other of what is right, wrong and true.

Some people said "Don't Judge", because either they know that there is a God who will judge us fair and we  are all sinning or they love doing a certain thing that they know it is wrong but they wanted to continue doing it. So if they advised others to stop doing whatever "it" is they are doing that is wrong, that would make them hypocrite? This word has become way overused, just like love and hate LOL. 

See, the thing is that we are all human, and we will continue to make mistake everyday and that is why we must repent everyday. Temptation comes everyday, the war is within ourselves with our own self. I am my own enemy. The devil could not make me do it, I do it, the devil only gives me some ideas, but he is not that powerful to make me do it, unless I wanna do it on the first place. 

I did sin A, it was wrong and I knew it. I see my friend is about to do this sin A, should I tell her to stop before it was too late just like my own experience or should I just let her go for it, do what makes you happy-even though I know it is wrong based on my own experience? Should I tell her or should I just shut my mouth up because I am too afraid of the "hypocrite" label people put on me?. Tell her what you know about it based on YOUR own experience and what it does to your life. If she still chose to do it, then it is her choice, but you did what you must as a loving friend who does not wanna see her friend get hurt. Again, it is how we say it and what motivates us to say it. Is it love, self righteous, judgmental minded, selfishness, hate or simply big mouth who does not think first yet always open their mouth to say hurtful things.

Sometimes your act of love speaks louder than words. So, if you know you are dealing with issues that requires action and not words, then it is time to speak up when they ask your opinion. Nobody can beat the words, "I am here if you need me", "I will always be your friend no matter what", "What can I do to help you?"or "I understand, I have been there". 

When people hates you because you are different, 

love them anyway. 

When people makes fun of you because of your principles or values in life, 

love them anyway. 

When people attacked you because you disagree with them, 

love them anyway. 

In life, we will always meet those who agree/disagree with us, what are you gonna do? 

Hide? Hate? Anti Social? Gossip?

Stand true to the TRUTH, 

and at the same time love them who dislike you because you disagree with them. 

We don't need to agree with everyone all the time. I have an opinion, you have yours.

 If you don't agree with me, 

I still love you

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Love ALWAYS win

xoxo,

Lindsay

The Scar Of Love

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When we love someone,

I find it very hard to let go,

Especially to death.

We eventually learn or deal to live without them,

But it is not always easy.

Though we all going to die someday,

I want it to be exactly just like this quote (LOL),

Especially to those who are very dear and close to my heart.

I just want to pause every moment of happiness,

Fast forward the bad moments,

Rewind the goodness,

and delete the bad, crappy and junk memories.

I also think that certain people leaves a big impact in my life,

May it be a scar of love or a scar of pain.

Why do I chose the word "SCAR"?

because life is not all about the happy moments,

there are moments of sadness, struggles, dark and worries,

but there are also moments of never ending happiness, joy and love.

Those moments makes us who we are today. 

Why SCAR?

 Because I wanted it to be with you,

carved on your heart and stays there forever.

I would love to leave a scar of love in people's lives,

So that when they see it,

They smile and think of me,

With that warm feeling 

And they will say it the way Winnie The Pooh did

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xoxo,

Lindsay

Your Spouse, Your Best Friend

This could be one of those days that I got sentimental when my husband is not with me. 

But, I do think of this a lot. 

Yes, we all have our own circle of friends, 

those whom we have known for a long time before we met our spouse. 

But, there is a special friendship and bond with our spouse that lights up the heart, 

a unique friendship.

"Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 

Husbands, love your wives, 

and do not be harsh with them."

(Colossians 3:18-19)

Our spouse have seen us on our best and our worst,

That is a beautiful thing,

Pain and Joy,

..lol..

At the same time.

UNIQUE

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For those who have children, 

your children will be leaving your house one day. 

It will never change the bond and love that you have with your children,  

but they will not be with you 

for the rest of your life,

as their focus,

in the same house.
There are things that you can and cannot
share with other people
including your children.
But,
You could always share those secrets
with your spouse.

Your children,
Your joy, pride and love as well.
But,
they will have their own focus,

their own family,

someday!

Your spouse suppose to be your main focus,

Your joy,

Your laughter,

Your life,
Your confidant,
Your partner at all circumstances,

Your forever!

"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."

(Genesis 2:24)

There is one person who will be that 'til death do you part's partner. 

Yes, your husband and/or wife will be the one who will always be with you, 

even when the children are no longer lives in the same house with you.

So, as much as you love your children, understand that your spouse needs you as well. 

You are his/her partner and best friend. 

Fulfilled each other's need, 

do things that makes you both happy,

with and without kids. 

Don't feel guilty to have date nights without the kids,

YOU and YOUR SPOUSE need that time, 

just the two of you.

"Haven't you read," he replied, 

"that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,'  

and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 

and the two will become one flesh'?  

So they are no longer two, but one. 

Therefore what God has joined together, 

let man not separate."

(Matthew 19:4-6)

Love. Laugh. Live.

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xoxo,

Lindsay

My "Sex & The City" Moment

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In one of the “SATC” episode, there was Carrie in the most beautiful city in the world, PARIS, and she was standing in front of a cafe looking at some women giggling and having a fabulous time with their friends and at that moment she knows that she miss her BEST friends badly, then she called them.

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It was a great moment for me as well because I felt her emotion in that movie. I mean Carrie was there because she wants to be with her boyfriend at that time, Aleksandr Petrovsky. She was in love with Aleksandr, he loves her, but the problem occured when she was in Paris and realized that Paris is not what she imagined it would be. She can’t speak French, she missed her friends and her NYC, she missed her old life.

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I miss my old life. 

I miss my FAMILY, my MANADO, my FRIENDS. 

I miss my fun “life without burden”.

Don’t get me wrong, unlike Carrie Bradshaw, 

I am real and still in love with my husband. 

I love my life now, I love this country. I love my husband and everything we have in this great time of life. But having all that doesn’t mean I don’t miss my hometown, my family and friends. Nothing will ever change the love I have for those things. There is no place like HOME because it is the core of your heart.

Many people think that being in America or outside your home country is a fun adventure. It is not totally wrong. But what they do not know is the struggle to live in other country is not that easy and fun and happy all the time as you thought it would be, just like what Carrie felt when she arrived in Paris. Her dream city, she loves fashion, she loves the man, the idea of Paris is cute and all until you actually living it.

I am sure that for those who lives here and has a mixed marriage situation, you know what I am talking about. Its not that we don’t love our spouse or the life we have here, it's just that our hearts will always love and miss those who are in our hearts from the beginning.

I have been dreaming to come to America and marry an American ever since I was a kid. It is amazing how God works in your life, how He put desire and dreams for you and made it came true. But there is always a price for everything.

I love my life but I am so homesick and Manado is so far away hahahaha..America has a lot of things but Manado has everything I love.

I just need to let this feeling out, to write it out loud. 

I need to tell the world that there is no place like home! 

No family and friends like mine and yes there is no husband like mine that I would love and honor for the rest of my life. This is my life and the price I chose to live. It is a sweet life and I am grateful for it. Only God knows what and how I feel about it and maybe some of you :)

Well..its 1:05 AM, I should be sleeping by now huh? Well, homesick makes people stay awake and day dreaming :)

Lindsay