My Getaway

My Getaway..

Sometimes when I need to find peace,

I run into nature,

I hide on its beauty.

My Getaway..

Sometimes when life feels overwhelming,

I seek wisdom,

I listen to her.

My Getaway..

Sometimes when the uncertain scared me,

I surrender to the all powerful one,

I let my fear go.

My Getaway..

I found you everywhere,

I rest my case,

No more worry because life is beautiful,

 My Getaway..

The ONE who knows my secret,

my deepest fear,

my glorious moment,

my best and worst thoughts,

my insecurity,

my pain and my gain.

My Getaway,

I am saved with you,
perfectly covered with grace,
overwhelmed with love,
living with hope anchored on my soul.

My Perfect Getaway!

xoxo,

Lindsay

True Happiness

"Because there is no true happiness apart from holiness, and there is no true holiness apart from knowing what it means to suffer unhappiness. And there is no knowing how to suffer unhappiness apart from God."

-Ann Voskamp-

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Have hope, stay strong and discover your true happiness in life.

We only have ONE life,

it is not worth to live our one life wasted, unhappy and lost.

Sadness is a part of life,

it does not have to be your everyday life.

Happiness, 

on the other hand,

 suppose to be a part of our everyday life.

ONE life to live,

ONE life to fulfilled,

ONE life to offer,

ONE life that could changed many lives!

When I feel like God is far away from me,

When I feel like I am lost,

When I feel like God is silent..too silent..,

Then I know I am way too far away from His path

and

I am suffering
..dying..

I am suffering when I live a life without God,

I am suffering when I live a lack of passionate life,

I am suffering when I lost compassion toward others,

I am suffering when I do things that brings me temporary happiness,

I am suffering when I stop praying, stop hoping, unfaithful

to the ONE and ONLY,

my creator,

my everything.

I once was lost, but now i'm found

I was blind, but now i see..

I see that I cannot live without Love, Hope and Faith,

I see that I am worthy,

I see that I found my true happiness in Him..

overflowing peace,

unspeakable joy,

contentment,

kindness and mercy

compassion..an everlasting compassion..

{inhale}

..hmmm..

 {exhale}

..life is good..

That is my true happiness 

I don't wanna live any other way.

:)

What is Your True Happiness?

xoxo,

Lindsay

I am content, therefore I am rich!

"He is rich who is content with the least; for contentment is the wealth of nature." 

-Socrates-

There are times in life when we do not appreciate what we have in the present moments because we want something more in life, which is not totally wrong, ambition is a good thing when it is balanced with wisdom. It becomes wrong when we want something more in life turned into ungratefulness, complaining and do nothing about it, comparing and blaming others for your own "I want what they have" moments.

If you spend a lot of time talking to old people, you will be amazed at how content their lives are all about by just having a new oxygen to breath, someone to call, meal on the table and newspaper. It is the simple thing in life that most of us forget most of the time, because we already have it, therefore those simple things in life lost their value. 

We get use to it and we thought it is no big deal, everyone has it, right? WRONG!

Water..we live in a country where you could drink water directly from the sink faucet, in some countries you must boiled the water first then wait for it to cool down then you could drink it. In some countries, you must walk for miles just to get water, unhealthy dirty water, and when you found it for maybe a bucket, you must walk back to your house for miles, then boiled them, then wait to drink the water that is not even clean after you boiled them. You could still taste the dirt in your mouth! 

We have water in a very easy and comfortable way right in front of our eyes. Not everyone has it the way we have our water.

Water is just an example, simple yet we need them so badly in our lives because we could survive without food but not without water.

My point is we take everyday things that we have for granted because we think that is not important, everyone has it anyway. But it is the most important thing in life that we have, we forget the value and nope.. not everyone has it in life.

These days everything seems so fast and advanced. Technology, beauty industry, social media, etc, that makes us want more in life. Things that we do not necessary need in life yet it becomes our standard of happiness, value, social life, beauty, satisfaction, rich or poor, etc.

You will be fine without your phone, but you will die without water!

Learn from an animal, who is content and praising God when they have food to eat, water to drink, place to sleep or hang out (may it be a filthy ground, a cave, a tree).
My dog is at his happiest moment when he sees me come home from work, everyday! His joy never drained..always so excited and thankful to see me home, appreciates me to the max and do all of his tricks just to make me happy. 

Are you that happy when your mom and dad comes home from a hard day at work? Did you hug them or tell them you appreciate their hard work for you?
When was the last time you appreciate your spouse or children or food/water on your table or jobs or kind neighbor?

Little things in life that we have, we forget the value, yet it is important!

You never know until you lost them! 

A week ago, AT&T U-Verse was having problems in my area and they never have any problem until that day. My Internet, TV and phone were down. I had never feel so sad in my life hahhha..you never know how much you depended your happiness on technology until that kind of things happened. It was only for 24 hours, but oh my gosh..I was on my ninja mode. I tried to be Mac Gyver to Steve Jobs all at once, I tried to fixed the internet, phone and TV. When every attempt does not work, I called the company and they told me that the problem was with their company and they are trying to fixed it.

It was the longest 24 hours of my life and the worst part is my husband is out of town and I could not reach him due to his job in the military. 

The next morning I woke up and see my TV, Internet and phone working again was like experiencing miracles in life. You should have seen my face and the words of thankfulness flowing out of my mouth LOL. OK, I exaggerate a little but the point is I was very happy!

It goes the same thing with people, you never know until you lose them to death or occasion in life. 

Enjoy what you have now in life, be thankful and proud of yourself for having those things and people in your life. Not everyone has it the way we do, so complaining and comparing, especially do nothing in between, is not good for your own sanity :)

There will always be someone prettier, richer, smarter, better than you. But, God did not create you to be him or her. You are created to be yourself with purposes that made specifically for you. You might not have it now, but you do not know what the future holds for you. 

There are things/people that you might never have, so why not enjoy with what you actually have and could have in life. 

I always value and respect those who earn what they have by working with their own hands. I love diligent people, I hate lazy people. Live a life that is worth living for with a grateful heart. It is easier to say it than to actually living it, especially when you know people who get it very easy in life and you have to work so hard to get certain things in life. But, hating those who has it the "easy" way will only make your life harder and who needs that in life, right?

We might as well enjoy what we have, who knows what tomorrow holds for us?

:)

I am content, therefore I am rich.

Things will never satisfy your needs, your heart's gratitude toward those things that will satisfy you. If you are greedy or never feel content, then you have a miserable life. You cannot keep up with everything, you cannot have everything, so don't beat yourself up!

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xoxo,

Lindsay

Single or Taken?

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Ouch!! 

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A dear friend of mine posted this image on her Facebook's page a while ago and I found it very true, funny and sad at the same time!

When we were little, girls loves to fantasize of her prince charming, the knight in shinning armor who would do anything for her, loves her and treat her like a princess everyday.

If you grew up with a father whom you considered as your "hero", then there is a huge possibility that you will find a man who reflected your father. Not in a gross way, come on!! LOL!!

I meant a man who in so many ways reminds you of your father as far as his character, his hard work, his dedication and how he treated you as a human being.

If you grew up with a father who failed to do his job as a father, then there is a possibility that you ended up confused with men. You have no idea of what a great man is all about or how they should treat you and what is the man's position/roles in a marriage, because you never had one good male figure in your life.

On the other hand, even if you grew up with a bad father, it actually makes you very picky to chose your soul mate, because you do not want your life to ended up like your mother and you do not want you future kids to suffer what you went through as a child (to present time - yes parents, you left scars on your children's lives, it affected us in so many ways).

At the end of the day, we met some men, 

some of them are great, 

some of them are jerk, 

and WE ended up picked ONE that we thought qualified as our "Prince Charming".

Fast forward...

Once you entered a life called "marriage", your world changes!

Things that we did not see when we were dating is starting to appeared, 

things that we hate and love as well.

There are people who are really good at hiding the "true color" of their soul.

Some learned to be better and actually trying to be the best,

Others are too selfish to let go of their bad side.

Many became a bad (or good) one because something happened in their lives that changed their good behavior to be bad and their bad behavior to be good.

If your marriage is taking a down stroll, then you are one of the "Taken and not in love"s group?

Well, I think that there are some steps before we got into that phase in a relationship:

1. Love - Married/Dating - Lost the love

2. Not in love - Married/Dating - Fall in love

 3. Not in love - Married/Dating - Still not in love

4. Love - Married/Dating - Still in love

LOL, right?

So, which one are you at this point? Ideally, people would love to be number four, because it is the perfect kind of relationship, but sadly, not all of us could experience it. 

"Marriage doesn't create problems. It reveals them. You bring unresolved stuff into it."

Rick Warren 

Now, let's move on to the single ladies/men,

woot woot!!

I found it very true when people say they are single and happy, 

if that is really their honest feeling, 

because it is simply mean they are not ready to get involved in any relationship.

It is better to admit it, instead of rushing into any relationship based on a moment of passionate sex or a pressure from everyone else who wanted you to be in a relationship, when you, yourself, are not ready.

"You can't hurry love, right?"

;)

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Now, for those who are single and ready to be in a relationship but has not meet up with the right man/woman yet,

are you still single and happy or single and miserable?

This is for you to answer yourself.

But hey..,

I would rather wait for the right one, enjoy my single life without any drama and do things that will benefits myself in the future instead of rushing into a relationship, get all the drama that you don't need and then your life becomes worst than "The Real Housewives of Hell".

It's harder to fix the broken heart and clean up the mess it created than to be in a relationship with someone. I would rather check the "single" box in my Facebook account than to check the "Its complicated" one..

whew!! 

I just can't deal with anything that is complicated.

Even though, I can't speak up for any relationship that is complicated because when it comes to love, you get mixed feelings, emotions, logical thinking, and "sacred" moments.

Its harder to let go when you are in a relationship,

there is an emotional connection that is hard to break.

But, in a very bad situation,
always remember to save yourself
so you can save others!

What do I love the most of being married to my husband?

COMPANIONSHIP

and that is my final and honest answer!

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Singles and Doubles,

Taken or not,

In or out of love,

have a great Friday

T.G.I.F

;)

xoxo,

Lindsay

Mess-Test-Trial-Victim

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THOUGH YOUR LIFE IS A MESS NOW,
TEST AFTER TEST THAT MAKES YOU TIRED,
TRIALS THAT MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE GIVING UP,
TOO MAD AT THOSE WHO MADE YOU A VICTIM,
WHERE IS JUSTICE?
WHERE IS GOD?

YOU ARE NOT ALONE THROUGH EVERYTHING IN LIFE.
YOU WERE NOT EXPERIENCING THINGS BY COINCIDENCE,
THEY HAVE A PURPOSE, A REASON, A LESSON, A PROMISE TO KEEP.

THERE IS HOPE FOR A BETTER TOMORROW,
THERE IS FAITH TO GIVES YOU STRENGTH,
THERE IS LOVE TO EMPOWERED YOU.

KEEP ON FIGHTING UNTIL YOU REACH YOUR VICTORY!

"Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him."
James 1:12


"Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer."
Romans 12:12


"Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us."
Romans 5:2-5

"I can do all things through him who strengthens me."
Philippians 4:13


"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
Joshua 1:9


"As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today.
Genesis 50:20


"Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me."
Psalm 23:4


"For the Lord your God is he who goes with you to fight for you against your enemies, to give you the victory."
Deuteronomy 20:4


xoxo,
Lindsay

The Five W's Of Life

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Live A Life Worth Living For (you).

xoxo,

Lindsay

"The Only Easy Day Was Yesterday"

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Everyday has its own challenge to face,

Everyday has its own lesson to learn,

Everyday has its own wisdom to embrace,

Everyday has its own knowledge to share,

Everyday has its own lost to give,

Everyday has its own victory to gain.

Though we will never go back to yesterday,

We learned from it.

Though we will never know what tomorrow holds,

Or what might happen today,

We could only hope for the best and prepare for the worst.

As one of the US NAVY SEALS famous motto says,

"The Only Easy Day Was Yesterday"

Roger That!

:)

xoxo,

Lindsay

So That Others May Live

I dedicated my blog today for those who died protecting my freedom,

Serving their country,

Saving many lives,
Lost their own life,

So that others may live.

MICHAEL A MONSOOR

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Thank You Michael Monsoor for your ultimate sacrifice.

You are forever loved and not forgotten.

Your family and friends are in our prayers, always.

..We remember you..

Rest In God's Arms!

♥♥♥♥♥

"Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends."

John 15:13

Hooyah!

Lindsay

The Scar Of Love

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When we love someone,

I find it very hard to let go,

Especially to death.

We eventually learn or deal to live without them,

But it is not always easy.

Though we all going to die someday,

I want it to be exactly just like this quote (LOL),

Especially to those who are very dear and close to my heart.

I just want to pause every moment of happiness,

Fast forward the bad moments,

Rewind the goodness,

and delete the bad, crappy and junk memories.

I also think that certain people leaves a big impact in my life,

May it be a scar of love or a scar of pain.

Why do I chose the word "SCAR"?

because life is not all about the happy moments,

there are moments of sadness, struggles, dark and worries,

but there are also moments of never ending happiness, joy and love.

Those moments makes us who we are today. 

Why SCAR?

 Because I wanted it to be with you,

carved on your heart and stays there forever.

I would love to leave a scar of love in people's lives,

So that when they see it,

They smile and think of me,

With that warm feeling 

And they will say it the way Winnie The Pooh did

:)

♥-♥-♥-♥-♥

xoxo,

Lindsay

Coincidence or Not?

We were taking a walk around the neighborhood last Saturday,

And we saw this on the pavement,

It says "If you think Luke is awesome follow the arrows."

My dog's name is LUKE,

So...

I decided to take this picture of him!

Sometimes in life we think it was a coincidence that we see this, meet them, do this, etc,

and many times it is just a coincidence of a day,

But actually ALL the time, it is not a coincidence.

What we think, see, hear, do,

WILL

affects other people and the earth in some ways.

God is taking care of every step we take,

To guide us, teach us so that we could do the same to others (and vice versa),

We are all a chain in this world,

One person connect to the other,

One change the other's life and that person change the next one's life and etc.

We learn from experience and other people's wisdom,

There is nothing new under heaven

;)

We might take detours and wrong turns along the way,

But God will try a lot in His power to bring you back to the right path,

And trust me..He is powerful.

Sometimes the detour is not easy,

Its hard, but its for our best interest.

Beside, we are the one who made the wrong turn, deal with the consequences.

It is better to hurt now but at the end it is for our best and healing,

Than keep walking and enjoy the dangerous momentarily "happiness"

and at the end it kills us, destroys us, hurt us.

The keywords are OBEDIENT and WILLINGNESS

to understand God's goodness (or our own understanding, which is limited and selfish),

to be mold according to what God think is better for us.

He sees our potential while we settle for just "OK",

Why settle for less if we can excel to the greater level?

We met people along the way in this life,

Some of them are gone,

Some are still stays,

Some are set to meet us in the future.

Everything that we do in this life,

is either for our benefits and others,

Or a disaster for us.

So NEVER think that what you do will not affect other people,

Because it is!

Remember we are all a chain to each other and we affected other people's lives in some way,

It is just like a "domino effect" 

We can either strengthened or destroyed each other.

In Manadonese, we say it "Torang Samua Basudara,"

Which means, "We are all brothers/sisters"

Basudara simply means related/family!

:)

Everything we do is affecting other creature's being on this earth,

May it be human, animals, plants or earth in general.

Live a life that will help the environment in a positive way instead of destroying it.

What you sow now will be reap later on in life,

by you, your children and other people's grandchildren,

etc.

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“Coincidence is God's way of remaining anonymous.” 

-Albert Einstein-

Enjoy your day,

xoxo,

LIndsay

11 Painful Things

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 I found this interesting and worth of my time to read and think of my own opinions based on my own experiences about these 11 points. Here we go :

1. Agree with this one, even though sometimes it is unavoidable. What I do when I let myself slipped into this "unnecessary sentimental moment," I think of what it would do to my present life now. I think about the damage that has been done and it makes me willing to let this feeling go, once again. Sometimes, just cry it out loud! It helps released the pain ;)

2. Disagree on some moments. I actually LOVE to remember good ole' times and play it in my head, talk about it and it puts a smile on my heart and face. But, if those good times are too painful for you and it makes you sad thinking about it, then maybe you should start creating a new happy memory instead of living in a make believe paradise, but it was in the past!. NOW is your time.

3. Depends on the who, what, time, and place's factors. It is hard to hide our feelings when we are sad, having a crush on someone, or when we are mad but we can't be mad at that person for some reasons lol.

4. Yes, its hard, but trust me it is for the best. There is no need to waste your time loving someone who does not deserve your best. It is easier and so much fun to love someone who loves us in return!. But, yes, this point is hard and painful, especially in a case of unfaithfulness.

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5. End the commitment or better yet, never jump into one when we already know it will not worth a commitment. Be wise though, if it is just a temporary feeling then hold onto it because there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. But, if that relationship is wrong from all aspects, then end it!

6. There are people who do not deserve our best and there are people who is no longer available, such as married people, LOL. 

7. Too much love will kill you?. Love is the most special feeling, words and action a human being could offer to another human. However, if this love means you do not have filter of what is wrong and right, then you should understand that love has characters :

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8. Huh?!? If it is not meant to be, it will not be together. Do not push it because you will ended up hurting yourself, others and those who deserve your love. If A is a married woman, then she is not for you, it is not about the time, it is about loving/wanting the wrong person. If you were poor when you dated her and she left you, it was not because the time was not right, it is simply means she does not deserve you when you are successful. On the other hand, if you are already in a relationship/marriage life, there is no such thing as I got married at the wrong time. You might not got married on a right time (no job, no financial support, not done with school, etc) but it is too late now. You have a responsibility and commitment that you need to fight for in life. No more lame, lazy and pathetic excuses. Just work what you have and be good at it! ;)

9. If the person is available, then why the heck not?!? You will not find a new love if you keep living in your imaginary "old love". Life must moves on and yes, take the risk to love again. You never know that the right person might be this one. I took a risk and I was right to do that!

Click to read my previous post about "Fear To Fall In Love Again?".

10. Accepting is very hard to do but necessary for your own good. It is painful at times, but trust me, those who are not belong to your future, will get eliminated. It is just like ripping a bandage lol. You will thank God one day when you understand why that person get eliminated in the past.

11. This is why we must take a risk to fall in love again, to let go, to forgive, to trust again, to learn, to share, to moves on, to give it a try, because you would rather live with "Hey, oh well..at least I tried!" instead of "What if?".

xoxo,

Lindsay

Broken Dreams

Sometimes it takes a broken dream to have a hint of reality. So wake up dreamers, leave the broken pieces and live a new life. Start dreaming a new one, something that will benefits your future.

Dreams are made for us to have hope,

Dreams are made as a hiding place to escape reality,

Dreams are made for us to be anyone, anywhere and anything but ourselves at this present moment.

Some dreams are just dreams. 

Some dreams are ambition, goals and expectations.

In other word, dreams are something that we imagine, we want, we eager to have in our life because we do not have it yet. 

But, the sad part is that many of us have been dreaming for way too long and fell asleep. 

Then, one day we woke up and realized that it is all just a dream, nothing real. 

Some of us are doing something to make the dream comes true and some have succeeded, 

while others did their best only to witnessed their own dreams became 

nightmares.

This message is for those who did their best, struggled and failed. 

I am one of those people and I am here to say, "Wake up and let's move on!". 

As much as we wanted to live that particular dream, 

sometimes it takes a broken dream to have a hint of reality. 

Some dreams are not too late, 

some are way too late and way overdue.

Today is the day when we said, enough!

Today is the day when we said, move on!

Please stop pity yourself and comparing yourself to others who might "live" your dream. 

Stop the hate, the jealousy and the nonsense. 

Life offers us so much more than just a broken dream. 

We HAD that dream, 

now let's dream some more that will benefits our future.

Good luck dreamers..awaken your soul!

xoxo,

Lindsay

(Images are taken from tumblr)

Beyond The Tears

God hears our prayers beyond our problems,
God sees our hearts beyond our loneliness,
God understands our thoughts beyond our limitation,
God speaks our languages beyond our understanding.

God hears our cry beyond the walls that we built,
God knows our sadness beyond the barrier that we built,
Walls and barriers that we built our whole life,
To prevent hurts, lovers and enemies to cross that line..again!

God moves our faith through it all,
God increases our strength through our weakness moments,
God lifted our hopes up in the midst of chaos,
God stirred our compassion in the middle of crisis.

Why?

Because God knows what works,
Because God cares,
Because God sees beyond the tears and the walls and the barrier and the problem and the chaos,
Because He is the same God who introduced love, hope and faith in human race.

xoxo

Chose Love and Let Love Wins Over Evil

Sometimes what seemed to be love was simply just lust.

What blinds us to see the truth?

What makes us able to chose?

Is it reality, pain or maybe a sweet love?

Sometimes what seemed to be the truth was simply a blind faith.

What blinds us to see the truth?

What makes us able to chose?

Is it facts, hopes, or maybe denial?

Sometimes what seemed to be dream comes true was simply a reality of life itself,

We were too blind to see happiness because we did not look at the center of life itself.

We were too scared to step in reality because dream world seems promising,

We were too prideful to chose love over stupidity of a temporary feeling.

What or who comes between you and your happiness must be love and only love,

If its other than love, then let it go!

If its other than love, then it does not worth losing yourself!

If its other than love, then it is pure evil!

Chose love,

Chose life,

Chose wisdom!

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xoxo,

Lindsay

When the "outsider" influenced your marriage

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Lately, some of my very close friends has been dealing with separation, divorce and bitterness with their other half. It is very sad when two people who used to love each other turns into hating each other or chose to stop fight by ending the relationship. Even though I might not agree with divorce, I totally understand why people do that. I am a product of a divorce household. As sad as it might seem, some people are better not to be together in the first place. I have to be honest and say that I wished my parents were getting along well, but they were not. In fact, divorce might be one "good" decision they have ever made. I feel so sinful by saying it.

As a Christian, I am against divorce for sure. But, when your life is in danger of spousal abuse and other things that might make you or your children in danger of losing their lives, then you should seek help. Divorce should and must be the last decision in every marriage. Fight for your marriage, try very hard to make it work and be selfless. It is not a sign of weakness, it takes courage to be humble, in order to win something as important as your marriage.

There are a lot of things that made you realize that you need to end the relationship. It might be because you found a new one (aka cheating lol), comparison with others that seemed and might be better than your marriage, differences, abuse, financial troubles, and a million other excuses and reasons.

 One of them that you might or might not realized is the OUTSIDER factors.

Now, let me explain, the insider first. The insider are your spouse and only him/her. Then comes the second layer of insider, your children. The outsiders are your parents, your family, your in laws, friends, co worker, stranger, celebrity and etc.

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Don't get me wrong, family and friends are one of the most important people in our lives. But, they can either make you better, break you apart or cheer you to your divorce gates. For some cases it might be good, but for a lot of cases, NOT!

I have heard wives complained about how their in laws are so-very annoying, and too involved in their lives. I have heard husbands who complained of how much the in laws makes their wives turn against him. As funny as it gets, but your family can destroy your own marriage. Be careful and be very wise to filter and judge which information is useful and which are trash.

If you have a great family, thank God! But if you have a family who is more like a dictator than a loving parent, then be careful. Don't let this "outsider" decided whats best for you. Listen to them if they are right, but avoid them if they are trying to break what suppose to be unbreakable.

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A loving family and friends will not want to watch you fall into a deep valley of depression, abuse or never ending hurt. If they are trying to help, they will also do it out of love and respect toward your spouse. They are not the one who is living your marriage life, you and your spouse are, for life.

A loving family and friends will always be there for you. Not just when things are great, the grass are green. They are there when the sky is dark. They suppose to love you and at least show some concern when you are struggling or down in life. Those who showed up when things are great, happy and fun, are those who only love you IF and WHEN things are good. Those are NOT your real family and friends.

They might be related to you, but they do not care about you. Those who were there when you were on top of the mountain and when you are all the way down in the valley, are those who truly loves you and care about you.

I hate it when family judging you based on their own feelings and not facts. I dislike when family member taking credit for something that they were not even care in the first place. You know, the one who THINK they deserve the glory because they are family but NEVER act like one. I found it both funny and annoying.

Next time when you fight with your spouse, ask theses questions in your head:

- What did your spouse do that caused you this fight?

- Who and what influenced you to fight? Is it between the two of you or is it because of other people? including your family and friends!

- What will you gain after this fight is over? It it to become better or worse?

- Is this fight even worth it?

Don't confuse between advice and order. Don't let other people determined your happiness or dictate you how to live YOUR marriage. Some grass are greener, because you do not live there. Some marriage seems better because thats how they wanted you to see it. Everyone has problems in marriage, but not everyone is wise enough to fight for it. Even worst, when you ended your marriage or fight constantly because of the "Outsiders."

Remember, value their opinion, filter it, but don't let them decide or dictate how to live your marriage life.

Parents, RESPECT your children's spouse. 

You must let them live their own lives and trust them. Your involvement is needed when asked, but it does not mean you could interfere their lives all the time. On the other hand, be there for your children and their families as a helper that they wanted you to be, not as a "god" who control everything. Some parents still can't believe that their boy or girl is a grown up and is married and is capable to love their spouse. God intended for them to love each other. Human, including family and friends, should not break their love!

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xoxo,

Lindsay

No Strings Attached

According to Urban Dictionary, No Strings Attached (NSA)means: Doing something for someone without asking for anything in return. There is another source that pretty much explains it as well. This one is from Wiktionary and it says, Characterized by an absence of conditions or obligations or unconditional. It sounds like a great, ideal way of being a hero and being a Good Samaritan.

But I am not going to write about a Good Samaritan. This time, I want to talk about "No Strings Attached" from a "love" relationship's angle. From this website it says NSA is Where two people decide to engage in a sexual relationship that has no ties or expectation with regards to finances, exclusivity or romance. Literally, there are no strings binding the two together.

Many people these days, especially young people, think that this is a cool relationship. First of all, it doesn't have to involve commitment and then there is a catch, you can pretty much do anything any lover does without the C (commitment) word. Its a win win situation, right?. Especially for those who are not ready to be involve in a committed relationship, fear about it or had a bad experience of it. Whatever your reason or excuses, people have their own opinion about it and so am I ;)

I, for one, is against this. I mean, if you don't want to be involved in a relationship then at least avoid the sex part. Think about it! Whose advantage is it to have access to your body (and maybe soul), without any commitment to their actions?. If you are pregnant, I am not into it. If you get any sexual disease ..oopps!! If you fall in love, don't be, because I am not into it.

Sex is not just a word to pleasure your body. God intended sex to be between a husband and a wife. A man and a woman in a committed relationship, to honor and to love each other. Why does God want it to be that way? Because there is a deep, intimate pleasure in sex. It is not just reaching for your body, it is also touching your deepest soul. There is no greater wound that a heart broken caused by LOVE. It is a powerful word, a deep sense of touching and feeling. It is not just for fun, even though fun is a part of love itself.

You might say that the reason/excuse that you do not want to be in a serious relationship or commitment is because you don't think you love the man/woman. You just want the sex part without the drama that comes with it. Even when the two, or more, of you agreed to live this lifestyle, you should think about the value of your future, your body and your life.

After the sex, is it enough? No, you craved for more. You want more sex, you want more attention, you want more in life. It is just a human in us who always demands more, never satisfied. That is why God wants you to have sex with one person that you love and love you back in a commitment. Why? because God wired our bodies to crave for more sex and be satisfied with it in every level. From physical to emotional to orgasm LOL. God understands that and He intended for you to enjoy sex with pleasure, not being taken advantage of some selfish man/woman, not being a slave of your own addiction or others and not being dumb to think that it is OK to do it because it is what everyone else is doing.

Just because others think it is cool or OK, it doesn't have to change who you are as a person and have to agree with it. Have an integrity within yourself. I, for one, would not like for anyone to just want my body to pleased him and do not want to deal with the aftermath that comes within it. I also don't want to do that to other person. If I want a friendship with a man, then I go for a friendship, not the sex without any (personal) attachment. Sex IS personal and you already are ATTACHED when you have sex with other person. How many babies has died because you do not want the attachment in your relationship? How many hearts had been broken because of this kind of relationship? How many future has to take a different path because of it? etc.

You might feel in control when you have a say in a relationship, but are you really in charge of your life? or is it just a way to make you feel like you "gain" power over a man when you say "Hey NSA, OK?!" and you think you are powerful? I mean come on! If I am a dude then who doesn't want a woman who would like to have sex for free, no drama, no obligation, no responsibilities afterward..no matter what happened? Well..hello world?! LOL

I might be conservative in an old fashion way. But, I do value sex and especially love in a lot of ways. If someone don't wanna be your lover but want your body for sex, then I don't think they deserve the best of you. When you have sex, you give your best to that person. Unless you don't think yourself deserves a great price, then go ahead wasting your value to people who doesn't even think you are valuable enough that they are willing to respect you. If they chose to do the NSA, it simply mean they could do that to anyone at the same time they are doing it with you. No Strings Attached, right? you are free to do it with whoever and so am I.

If a person cannot or will not love you the way you should be loved, then they simply don't deserve your best!

I am not trying to be holy or good girl or whatever you implied through this blog..lol..I am just sharing my opinion. I just want you all to look at your life in a different way. In a way that God wants you to respect yourself. If you can't love yourself, you can't expect others to do the same to you. Even if you are doing it for fun or because you value commitment or love and don't feel to share it unless with the right person. Then, why waste your time, body and energy with the one that you don't see your future with them in it?. Be friend, and ditch the sex part. Sex is temporary, an overnight sensation, but you can't take it back. Whats done is done. No matter how good the sex gets, it wont beat the sensation of doing it with the one you love.

Well, there is a beauty of being in love and share it with one person for the rest of your life. It is not old fashion and no we don't miss anything by not doing the NSA part. It is just not for me, it might be for you, but consider these questions. What do you want in life? How much you value yourself by doing it? Do you see a future in that kind of relationship? What if you fall in love? What are your fears? Why are you doing that? just ask those questions and whatever your answers might be, there your life might lay in the future.

Make a wise decision before its too late or you get too comfortable and confused with what life suppose to be for you. There are many ways to enjoy sex than to waste it with a wrong person, who doesn't deserve you. There is nothing wrong to think "old fashion" in a modern world. At the end, you are the one who has to live your life and live with the consequences that comes based on what you were and are doing in it.

You want to give the best for your future wife and husband, not what's left. If you are not a virgin anymore, you don't have to keep doing it just because you are not a virgin anymore. There is a forgiveness and grace through repentance. Sex might be one of the hardest addiction, but you can control yourself when you set your goal to a better you. If you are too scare to be in a commitment, then like I said, ditched the sex and just be friend. If you are a free spirited person, who does whatever you want in life, that is your choice and I am not trying to change who you are. Just consider it an opinion from a blogger ;)

xoxo,

Lindsay