Your Body Is The Reflection Of Your Soul

I think that the most beautiful part of ourselves is the soul. The body, however, will reflects the soul, may it be beautiful or not. 

What we are on the outside is the product of who we are on the inside.

Everyone and everything has its own beauty, even in its imperfection, we could still find the beauty of it. 

I am a big believer of confident is hot, smart is gorgeous, healthy is sexy, humility is sweet, kindness is love.

I also believe in "If you do not like what you see, do something about it" motto.

That goes for your health, body type, knowledge, wisdom, spirit, and soul.

There is nothing wrong about doing something good to make you feel better on the inside and on the outside.

However, so many times we get trapped in our own philosophy.

We tried to keep reminding ourselves that the real beauty is on the inside, yet we screamed and angry at ourselves when we look on the mirror, or when we compare it to anyone that seemed "perfect" and "have it all". 

That is not good!

The good news is : it is not too late to make you feel better about yourself, there is always a way when there is a will (a strong will that actually doing it)

The bad news is : giving up, self pity, laziness and denial.

But, no matter how breathtaking you are on the outside,

if your soul is ugly,

people will see it, smell it, notice it, and get sick with it.

People say that the deepest of the soul is mysterious,

yet it reflects so strong on how we live our lives,

how we treat ourselves and others.

I guess it is not that mysterious after all huh? ;)

Your everyday life is your catwalk in motion,

Walk with confidence is good,

Add kindness and wisdom to it,

then you will get a standing ovation from the crowd (may it be your family, friends, co-workers, even stranger)

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This post is not about body type, 
Its about the soul as the real beauty behind it.
Body represents the "outside"
the way we talk and act.

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XoXo Beauties,

Lindsay

Picture Of The Day

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PARIS YOU ARE ALWAYS IN MY HEART

Paris you are always in my heart

And you shine inside my heart 

Just like the rainbow

Paris you are a part of my heart 

~Aldo Kraas~

 ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

Who or what is YOUR "Paris" tonight? 

Have a wonderful weekend

xoxo,

Lindsay

Alone and lonely!

When the word "Alone" comes to my mind, I immediately think of "Alone" by Heart

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Well, I am an only child and I get use with the word "alone" way too much. I grew up surrounded by older people, which makes me have an old conservative soul. I am also a very introvert person, which is why I love to write, read and enjoy my alone time way too much. I am more comfortable that way. I am very shy, but once you get to know me, you will soon realize that I am talkative (when needed) lol.

Today, I live in the US with no family member and a military husband, who often "travel" a lot. With that being said, you get the picture of why the word "Alone" is my bff!

When we are alone, we have a tendency to get crazy, lonely and for some people lead to depression. I am an introvert person, but I am still feeling all of those things when I am alone for a long time. Its normal though, because every human being under earth needs someone else in their lives. Someone to talk, share, depend on, etc. God made us that way so that we understand that we could not live,by ourselves, all alone. We will always needed someone else to hold onto, to trust, to share and so on.

There are some things that leads people to be alone, and feel alone. They don't know anyone. They don't get along with anyone. They don't trust anyone. They don't think they need anyone. Situation in life that leaves us no choice but to be alone.

What helped me to get through my alone time are:

1. Do something good for yourself. 

Spend time doing things that YOU love. For me, it is reading, writing and running. Treat yourself something nice. Pedicure, salon, shopping, or enjoy a walk by the beach, cook your favorite food or go to your favorite restaurant, etc

2. Do something good for others.

You will be amazed how helping others in need bring so much joy than receiving something from others. There is joy, happiness and fulfillment in giving. It could be your time, energy, money, ideas, etc.

3. Think positive

Don't let negativity even dig a lil hole in your brain. This is the time when people started to do stupid things because they are alone and lonely. They tend to waste their precious life doing stupid things that only lead them from loneliness to depression. You don't need to be alone, lonely and depressed.

4. Surround yourself with people that can help you stay positive. 

If you don't have any family or friends, like me in here. Find some place that will bring good impact for your life now. A church, gym,library,small groups of people having problems like you, or call someone that you know will cheer you up (maybe an old friend,etc)

5. Don't feel sorry or pity yourself. 

Life has a lot to offer and enjoy it, instead of hating it. Use your alone time as a time to reflect your life to be better. Sometimes busy life makes us don't have time to take care of ourselves or something we always wanna try to do. This is the time. Get up and do something for yourself!

6. Entertainment. 

Music, Tv,Internet, dancing, cooking, etc. Its good for you as long as you don't spend all day doing nothing but being lazy in front of a TV or computer. Stay away from sappy movies or any songs like "alone" LOL

7. Write It Down

Write a diary or blogging. Its a great way to express your feelings and kills time. It is also a great reminder someday of what you were going through and how you get over it. Bitter-Sweet :)

8. Pray! 

It helps to say your deepest frustration to someone. Let it out to God. If you like to meditate, then do it. A quiet time just between you and your maker.

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9. Find help. 

When your alone and loneliness is killing you and you know it is not right, then you need to find help. A shrink, family member, priest, someone you trust to share your problem. Remember, you don't need to be alone. Trusting someone might not be your thing, it takes forever, but try to trust someone.

10. Time flies. 

Before you know it, a new season is here.

xoxo,

LIndsay

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Failure is not an option, but what if failure is all you got?

I have heard people says "Failure is not an option" or "Fails happened but a winner never quit trying" or "Try again!" :)

I understand if you don't try and still balling your eyes out and cry "Why do I fail?" BUT...what if you try and try and keep fails? or many times it doesn't even your fault at all, it is just happen to be you in that moment, place, and environment? What if failure is a "satanic circle" that no matter what you do, you keep coming back at it.

Amanda (not her real name) is a nice, smart, beautiful young woman. She grew up in a poor neighborhood, dad is an alcoholic and drug addict man who is too lazy to even get up and be a dad for her. Mom works hard, provide for the family and send Amanda to school. Amanda doesn't even know what the word "fun" means or what it feels like to go out with friends and have fun shopping, eating ice cream and talking about a cute boy just like every teenagers do these days. Amanda doesn't even have time to take a break because all she know is "work,school and take care of your family." She has to grow up and be an adult even though she is just a kid herself.

Then, she finally became an adult, but her life remains the same. She graduated from high school, still working to get into college because her parents couldn't afford it, and while she was working to save her money for college, she ended up pregnant and got married. Her husband, Carl (not his real name) is a great man. He is a hard working man, work 2 to 3 jobs for his family, grew up in a tough neighborhood himself and he is also in school. Imagine how chaotic their life is all about. Working 2 to 3 jobs, school and baby. But, they think everything is gonna be all right some day.

5 years later, Amanda ended up the same and so does Carl. They are happy with each other but their life remain the same. Struggling with the money, don't even have a wedding day, don't have any support or help from any family member, can't finish school and they have to save money for their kid's future. It seems like no matter what they do, they ended up poor. They work hard, they pray, they pay their bills, stay out of trouble, but they remain poor. They tried to succeed but it seems like it will never happen for them..well..maybe for their kid.

And there is Hannah, a sweet girl, nice, smart and all. Grew up in a nice family, parents are both love each other, work and provide everything she needs since she was a baby. She went to college, got married, became a housewife and work part time from home. Her husband, Tom, they met when they were at college. He grew up in a single parent household, dad died when he was 3 years old and mom work hard to provide for him and his sister. He went to college and succeed. They seems happy, content, and they still go on vacation every year.

Two stories with two different life. Life seems unfair huh? One works so hard to earn everything in her life and she still not make it and the other one doesn't even have to work hard and she lives very well.

So many times people think of those homeless or poor people or those who said "I kept fail" as those who are lazy, stupid or don't try hard enough. But, what if some of them really tried hard, work hard, and study hard but they couldn't make it because they do not have a good family support or money or opportunity as other people who gained it with the right support system.

We often underestimate the family factor in someone's life. There are a lot of people who succeed because their family help them out. Number two is an opportunity. A lot of people are willing to do whatever to be success but not all of them make it because they do not get the opportunity. For example, Dan is a smart guy but he doesn't have money to go to college and there is Tim, average guy, who has money for college. Dan doesn't have the opportunity just like Tim does even though he might be smarter than Tim. Number three is how far would you go to be succeed? Sometimes we wanna be a certain type of people or worker or person but maybe that field is not ours, maybe we need to change direction of career or love life or whatever it is. But what if THAT is what you want and only that..how far would you go to succeed, even though you tried so many times and failed? Is it not wise and stupid to keep trying or is it a great thing to keep trying and not give up until you get it? (is it really working or this recipe is just to make the "losers" feels happy? LOL)

Some people have to work hard to be succeed and some people don't even have to work hard to gain it. Some people made it and some don't. Sometimes failure is all you got, no matter how hard you tried. I am not trying to discourage you but this is a reality for some of us. Have you ever feel like your life is empty, useless, pointless and unhappy?

You know what, I think it would be a lie if someone say they never feel any of that even once in their life LOL. Because, no matter how handsome, beautiful, rich, smart and fabulous you are..life happens! Many times, it is not a happy thing to dance for. Sometimes when it happen, you felt like you just being hit by a large truck without warning and your look back to see if there is anything you could have done to prevent it from happening and sometimes you regret some of it. But many times, there is nothing that you could have done to prevent it from happening, life happens. It is either make you stronger or bitter toward life itself.

When life kept screwed you over and over again, it is not even your fault, you just feel bitter toward life. But, for some people, it becomes a challenge to move forward and fight back..harder! Which one are you? a fighter, a quitter or just simply a loser in this journey called "LIFE?"

Sometimes life treat us unfair and cruel. But I think there is always tomorrow ..hopefully it will be better than today :)
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xoxo,

LIndsay

Who is she to live MY dream?

Growing up with dreams and goals. Growing up with things that seems so cool to be one, so awesome to live it one day. I work hard, I study hard and other people is living my dream.

Pissed, mad, unfair, jealous, or simply urgh and blah!

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Do you have any dreams that you always had and actually working hard to get it done? I do. I have a lot of dreams about life, success and happiness.

Why is God sometimes seem unfair? Some people work hard and still poor, and other people doesn't even work and live well? Some people work out and eat right and they get cancer, and there are people who doesn't even care about their health and still look good and healthy? Some people wants baby so bad and some people are not happy when they are pregnant and actually did abortion?

There are so many injustice and unfairness things happened around the world and in our everyday lives. A lot of people killed in the name of "love" or "jealousy" and many of them still can't find peace after that.

How far would someone go just because they think life is unfair and blah? What is the point of working hard if live remains the same or even worst while other people taking it for granted? What is the point of being the nice one when the bad one won? What is the point of loving God when other people who doesn't still live well? Why treated other people just when other people treated you like garbage? Why work with honesty when other people cheats and won?

"Why and who is she to live my dream?"

THOUGHTS FOR THIS ISSUE

I love him and she got to be with him..I work hard and she got the credit for it by doing nothing..I live with honesty and she get the promotion by cheating..I care about them and they don't even know I exist..I serve God and they get God's love by being "the prodigal son" ..I help my parents and my brother who never even sober get more money than I do..I work out and my body is still fat and she eats fatty food and still look fabulous .. I deserve to be THEM!

QUESTIONS:

WHAT WOULD YOU DO WHEN LIFE TREATS YOU WRONG?

WHAT WOULD YOU DO WHEN THE WORLD IS AGAINST YOU AND GOD SEEMS TO TURN HIS BACK FROM YOU?

WHAT WOULD YOU DO WHEN YOU LOSE?

My thought of the day is

"Jealousy can kill you, its a serious disease"

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My point of the day:

Life can be different than what we want it to be or thought it would be. But, there is always new day and new hope. 

When someone do mean things to you, forgive them and live your life. 

We win not because other people are happier than us, but because we survive this life without having to be a jerk or take an easy way out. 

We win because we are the only winner in our own life, we are a loser when we let ourselves to be one. Success, money, beauty and power are great and sounds promising but none in this earth is eternal. 

Live your life with grateful heart and go back to your normal zone without jealousy before you do something bad that you will regret someday in life. 

Revenge wont bring your loved ones back, cursing her wont make your life easier, hate him wont make things better. 

Try forgive and move on

A brokenhearted will make life worst but a new heart will have a chance to live your dreams..

once again.

SMILE...it is your dream (and still yours)..nobody can steal that from you. 

Everybody has their own dream and goal. 

What is your dream? it is never too late to have one and get it. 

If you lost it then it means it is not for you, you will get something or someone better. 

Dream it anyway!

xoxo,

Lindsay

My "Sex & The City" Moment

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In one of the “SATC” episode, there was Carrie in the most beautiful city in the world, PARIS, and she was standing in front of a cafe looking at some women giggling and having a fabulous time with their friends and at that moment she knows that she miss her BEST friends badly, then she called them.

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It was a great moment for me as well because I felt her emotion in that movie. I mean Carrie was there because she wants to be with her boyfriend at that time, Aleksandr Petrovsky. She was in love with Aleksandr, he loves her, but the problem occured when she was in Paris and realized that Paris is not what she imagined it would be. She can’t speak French, she missed her friends and her NYC, she missed her old life.

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I miss my old life. 

I miss my FAMILY, my MANADO, my FRIENDS. 

I miss my fun “life without burden”.

Don’t get me wrong, unlike Carrie Bradshaw, 

I am real and still in love with my husband. 

I love my life now, I love this country. I love my husband and everything we have in this great time of life. But having all that doesn’t mean I don’t miss my hometown, my family and friends. Nothing will ever change the love I have for those things. There is no place like HOME because it is the core of your heart.

Many people think that being in America or outside your home country is a fun adventure. It is not totally wrong. But what they do not know is the struggle to live in other country is not that easy and fun and happy all the time as you thought it would be, just like what Carrie felt when she arrived in Paris. Her dream city, she loves fashion, she loves the man, the idea of Paris is cute and all until you actually living it.

I am sure that for those who lives here and has a mixed marriage situation, you know what I am talking about. Its not that we don’t love our spouse or the life we have here, it's just that our hearts will always love and miss those who are in our hearts from the beginning.

I have been dreaming to come to America and marry an American ever since I was a kid. It is amazing how God works in your life, how He put desire and dreams for you and made it came true. But there is always a price for everything.

I love my life but I am so homesick and Manado is so far away hahahaha..America has a lot of things but Manado has everything I love.

I just need to let this feeling out, to write it out loud. 

I need to tell the world that there is no place like home! 

No family and friends like mine and yes there is no husband like mine that I would love and honor for the rest of my life. This is my life and the price I chose to live. It is a sweet life and I am grateful for it. Only God knows what and how I feel about it and maybe some of you :)

Well..its 1:05 AM, I should be sleeping by now huh? Well, homesick makes people stay awake and day dreaming :)

Lindsay