Alone and lonely!

When the word "Alone" comes to my mind, I immediately think of "Alone" by Heart

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Well, I am an only child and I get use with the word "alone" way too much. I grew up surrounded by older people, which makes me have an old conservative soul. I am also a very introvert person, which is why I love to write, read and enjoy my alone time way too much. I am more comfortable that way. I am very shy, but once you get to know me, you will soon realize that I am talkative (when needed) lol.

Today, I live in the US with no family member and a military husband, who often "travel" a lot. With that being said, you get the picture of why the word "Alone" is my bff!

When we are alone, we have a tendency to get crazy, lonely and for some people lead to depression. I am an introvert person, but I am still feeling all of those things when I am alone for a long time. Its normal though, because every human being under earth needs someone else in their lives. Someone to talk, share, depend on, etc. God made us that way so that we understand that we could not live,by ourselves, all alone. We will always needed someone else to hold onto, to trust, to share and so on.

There are some things that leads people to be alone, and feel alone. They don't know anyone. They don't get along with anyone. They don't trust anyone. They don't think they need anyone. Situation in life that leaves us no choice but to be alone.

What helped me to get through my alone time are:

1. Do something good for yourself. 

Spend time doing things that YOU love. For me, it is reading, writing and running. Treat yourself something nice. Pedicure, salon, shopping, or enjoy a walk by the beach, cook your favorite food or go to your favorite restaurant, etc

2. Do something good for others.

You will be amazed how helping others in need bring so much joy than receiving something from others. There is joy, happiness and fulfillment in giving. It could be your time, energy, money, ideas, etc.

3. Think positive

Don't let negativity even dig a lil hole in your brain. This is the time when people started to do stupid things because they are alone and lonely. They tend to waste their precious life doing stupid things that only lead them from loneliness to depression. You don't need to be alone, lonely and depressed.

4. Surround yourself with people that can help you stay positive. 

If you don't have any family or friends, like me in here. Find some place that will bring good impact for your life now. A church, gym,library,small groups of people having problems like you, or call someone that you know will cheer you up (maybe an old friend,etc)

5. Don't feel sorry or pity yourself. 

Life has a lot to offer and enjoy it, instead of hating it. Use your alone time as a time to reflect your life to be better. Sometimes busy life makes us don't have time to take care of ourselves or something we always wanna try to do. This is the time. Get up and do something for yourself!

6. Entertainment. 

Music, Tv,Internet, dancing, cooking, etc. Its good for you as long as you don't spend all day doing nothing but being lazy in front of a TV or computer. Stay away from sappy movies or any songs like "alone" LOL

7. Write It Down

Write a diary or blogging. Its a great way to express your feelings and kills time. It is also a great reminder someday of what you were going through and how you get over it. Bitter-Sweet :)

8. Pray! 

It helps to say your deepest frustration to someone. Let it out to God. If you like to meditate, then do it. A quiet time just between you and your maker.

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9. Find help. 

When your alone and loneliness is killing you and you know it is not right, then you need to find help. A shrink, family member, priest, someone you trust to share your problem. Remember, you don't need to be alone. Trusting someone might not be your thing, it takes forever, but try to trust someone.

10. Time flies. 

Before you know it, a new season is here.

xoxo,

LIndsay

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