Meant to be??
So many times we heard “in love” people or “in a relationship.” People are talking or saying to other people or to each other that they are “Meant to be”. But then they broke up or getting a divorce and all the nasty words start coming out.
I remember watching an episode in Everybody loves Raymond. I love that show LOL *hate me or love me*. Anyway, in that episode, Robert (Ray’s big brother) was confused because he has three girls to choose. One was his ex wife, one is his current on and off again girlfriend and the last one is a hot fling he met in Italy.
Robert told Ray and Frank, his dad, he decided to tell Amy that she is the one. He wanted to tell Amy that they are “Meant to be.” Now the reason he wanna tell Amy that they are meant to be is because he has two other choices but he CHOSE her to be with him. But then when he told Amy that story, they broke up. Wow! too much for honesty huh ;)
Amy sees Robert’s confession as something hurtful, she hated him for having another thought about their relationship. While Robert sees that as a “Meant to be” moment of truth. In other word, whatever and whoever you will meet in life ,if you are meant to be with that one person, your heart will comeback to that specific person.
What is meant to be means for you?
People said that God provides soul mates, but then the question is “Why then there is a divorce, if that’s from God?” or “If they got remarried, which one is THE soul mate?” and there are other people who said that soul mate is your choice, your decision, you live with it.
I, personally, think that God arranged the meeting, but at the end, it is up to us to chose or decide who we wanted. Lets face it, how many people are having a situation like Robert in that movie? You have to chose from three different people who have their own strength and weaknesses and we have to choose which one that we like the most.
Some people chose it according to their physical appearance, some chose it because of their brain capacity, their attitude, their skill, their talent, their money, fame, character, etc. But the main thing is “WE chose” or for some cases, other people chose it for other people just like the story of Siti Nurbaya or some ethnic people who chose someone to partner up with others.
In other word, God did not show up and push that person to love this person. Instead He let us meet them all and He wants us to decide, to see, to think ,to experience what love is all about and make a decision based on whats your heart and brain is telling you.
God wants us to be a responsible human being, not a controlled robot.
God does not created us to be like a robot where everything is programmed and we must act like that, even though it might be better if He did, so that we wont do mistakes? *joke*. But then here comes freewill, we all have our own decision to make. Just make sure we make that freewill with a responsible heart and attitude.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that God doesn’t have any role in “soul mate” or marriage. In fact He loves marriage, He created the idea of marriage (church and Christ is the example). He honors marriage so do not get confuse with it. But, I still think that the decision is ours to make.
People said that divorce comes up because people are giving up or they chose the wrong one. Now if they chose the wrong one it means the “right” one is missing his soul mate and he will be married with the “wrong” one, etc, and this world is gonna be a madness of people who get dump, divorce and hurtful family because the mom and dad lost their soul mate on the way to their wedding altar..gosh!
Now…I do believe that I met my husband for a reason at the right time and God allowed me to meet him. God give me the gift to love and to chose. My husband chose to ask me to marry him, its a question that we need to answer and the answer could be yes or no.
So get this : God is not the one who answer that question, we are, and that is why we need to be really careful answering this question.
Seek God to guide you to chose, understand your own heart and brain why would you wanna say yes to this man for forever. This is not just an episode like in the “Sex n The City”. It is not just a two hours movie of “The Notebook”. It is not just a thick novel of “Romeo and Juliet”. It is not just a fairy tale of “Cinderella”.
This is real life and YOU will be the one who is doing and will be living it up. Don't get caught up in the moment and say yes for the sake of lust, money, fame, temporary fling, sex, age, status, etc.
Say yes because you are ready to live a forever life with this one person only.
Do not blame God or other people if you made a wrong mistake, pray about it, deal with it, ask for help, fix it and move on. Some things cannot be fixed ,this I know, but you can still moving on with your life. Before you agree on something, before you say “I do”, think everything about it, think the impact of your answer to your life.
God NEVER make any mistake, we do.
Yes God will be with us, yes God will help us, yes God will do this and that for us, if we LET him play that role in our lives and just like any great parents ,God will also let us make decisions for our lives. If you know that certain things are wrong and not good for you from the beginning, then it is not from God. Do not jump into that relationship!
At the end we chose how to live our lives, we made the final decision. Be responsible and deal with your decision. Don’t blame God for things that we did, stuff and person that we chose.
We live, we chose, we learn and we move on..its surviving 101 :)
xoxo,
Lindsay *2008*
San Francisco
Home with Luke
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